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This may sound like a foolish question but I was wondering what are some of the reasons why some of the single folks are single.
ME: It's really tough for me to actually like someone enough to want to became involved with long term. Long term relationships are serious business and I just cannot get involved with someone that I "half way" like.
Sometimes I wonder if I am actually capable of a long term relationship. The older I get the harder it seems it is for me to truely enjoy someone.
No, I am not saying ALL the women I meet I feel this way but I have met my share of women that I felt this way about.
I'm still single because men play games and/or they just want sex and they are willing to lie to get it. You can't trust them long enough to develop a real relationship.
I find the two things I value the most - privacy and independence - are the first things I have to give up when getting into a relationship. I didn't have those when I was married, either, but discovered them after I left my husband. And for some silly reason, I seem to attract (or be attracted to) men who want to move right in!
I am single because my husband cheated, and it opened my eyes to a destructive pattern of behavior in our lives. I decided that for my sake and my daughter's that it was time to break the pattern.
It will take a special kind of person to change my mind about remaining indefinitely single.
I find the two things I value the most - privacy and independence - are the first things I have to give up when getting into a relationship. I didn't have those when I was married, either, but discovered them after I left my husband. And for some silly reason, I seem to attract (or be attracted to) men who want to move right in!
Guess because I haven't been out of my mind in the past 2 years. I was pretty busy, too. Perhaps that also kept me out of trouble. Well, in addition to the "lovely" lifestyle of general isolation mainly responsible for it as well as the Nazi anti-smoking laws essentially robbing me of any social life. Of course, all of the above CAN be circumvented should I put me mind into messing me life.
"Men who run our lives and take our money?"
-Vivian Ward from Pretty Woman
Joking aside, I went through a pattern of serious relationship followed by bad break up followed by "sleeping around" followed by a serious relationship (rinse and repeat) for several years. Then I put the brakes on and figured out that I needed to concentrate on me. Now, I'm in a great place. I love myself and my own company (IOW I finally "found myself"), I have great friends and a good life. I don't have the desire to go out looking for love, but if it finds me I'm receptive.
I'll third that privacy and independence and agree whole heartedly with an unwillingness to settle.
I could date local guys but I question the gene pool.
It does not take me very long to see the other parties agenda. I dated a man and he said to me that he could see us growing old together. I asked him what he saw. He said he could see himself in a wheelchair and me pushing him. It had to end. I just could not. I refused to date for a good six months.
I then dated a man whom I fell madly in love with. He is a very sick man. He has sarcoisis(sp?) which is lifelong as it is in his liver. If I remember that correctly and diabetic. He has a lot of infections that develop in his feet. He is currently in the hospital due to a foot infection. I ended this relationship for other reasons. However, this is one of the reasons that I cannot take up again with him. In the back of my mind are the questions that keep popping up. Such as,"Are you even interested in me or do you need someone to take care of you?" "Are you here because you love me or because you are afraid of dying alone?" "Are you settling?"
I am still single because I need an intense attraction to an individual and I won't settle and I won't tolerate a self serving agenda.
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