Is She With Me or Against Me? (marriage, love, husband)
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Continuing with the ongoing saga of my relationship...
So we've been married for 3 years now and did take the vows of partnership etc...so why does it always feel like she is against me??
Anytime I take issue with something or someone,for some reason she's got to always take their side! It's bad enough I'm a stranger in a strange land,but to have hardly anyone on my side is the kicker! No wonder I'm so fired up all the time!
Wtf is it with people around here? Aren't friends and spouses supposed to be on your side instead of feeding the grief,or is it just me? Need I ask...
I will always be on my husband's side. Unless I feel that he did something I disagree with. Basically, I will listen to him, hear him out. sympathize, but if I feel he said or did something I don't agree with, I will tell him.
StuckPA that must really stink to be in that circumstance. I understand what you are going through and I have been through very similar situations. I moved out of a roommate situation that was like as how you described and I transferred away from a grad program that was like how you described....everybody on the defense and everybody was petulant and belligerent about petty junk.....I'm in a happier place now.....does that mean I've met tons of great friends? No, but in general the people are easier to get along with and I am not living with a petulant roommate and no longer do I have to put up with his garbage.
So big platonic hug for you. I hope you feel better
It does not sound like you and Mrs.Stuck are a team...have you ever been? To answer your question, no you should not always agree with someone because they are your mate because sometimes people do dumb things even though we love them. But on simple things, sometimes it is easier to just agree than to start a fuss over nothing...
I stick by my partner in public no matter how much I may disagree with him. If he punishes one of our kids in a manner that I would not, I still stand behind him and then when the kids are in bed, let him know how I did not agree. You always have to look united even when you are not...no matter what the situation is. I have not been following your threads about your relationship, but I can tell you that the minute my husband does not support me, especially infront of others, is the day he can find the door! [IMO] It is that important to me that we look united as a couple no matter what is going on.
StuckPA that must really stink to be in that circumstance. I understand what you are going through and I have been through very similar situations. I moved out of a roommate situation that was like as how you described and I transferred away from a grad program that was like how you described....everybody on the defense and everybody was petulant and belligerent about petty junk.....I'm in a happier place now.....does that mean I've met tons of great friends? No, but in general the people are easier to get along with and I am not living with a petulant roommate and no longer do I have to put up with his garbage.
So big platonic hug for you. I hope you feel better
Lol @ platonic hug
Always great to hear from people who understand...I suppose once I get out of here,pretty much anyplace will seem easier to deal with
It does not sound like you and Mrs.Stuck are a team...have you ever been?
Good question,I never really thought about this.
I suppose when outside things come up against us we sort of team up,but the rest of the time I dunno...
Good question,I never really thought about this.
I suppose when outside things come up against us we sort of team up,but the rest of the time I dunno...
My hubby and I had hard times in the beginning because his family was so rotten to us so we became "Team Stewart" and that experience and other hardships made us stronger...our kids call the family "Team Stewart" too...That is why I asked. I always wonder if couples think of marriage as a team sport or not.
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