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Oh my Jesus...I think he is trying to say the class is real tough and he needs some tutoring or extra help (not that that is shameful). You have to use straight forward problem solving in that situation. This really isn't about his "friends" it is just his way of saying the class is a beach and he might need some tutoring and need you to encourage more studying and you should reward him for better grades too.....
I was forced into taking chemistry in high school and she taught it almost at college level. It was totally horrible and the teacher was pure evil. Either he needs to change teachers or get a tutor and you need to push him to study more and do all extra credit that is offered. Just do straight forward problem solving. Ok. Did that help you?
No, these were examples...he is super smart just hasn't found something that keeps him driven...it is so hard to explain.
Fine forget the tutoring and assisted academic help.
Do you have a rewards system set up? Because I would highly suggest that over forcing him to be intrinsically motivated. You will have better luck with a rewards system.
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No, these were examples...he is super smart just hasn't found something that keeps him driven...it is so hard to explain.
Everything in its own time..... just keep repeating that to yourself. My son is extremely talented in so many ways but he has not been motivated to work harder at the things I thought he should (math, history, etc). I am finally realizing that the more I back off - the more he finds his way. Good luck!
You would be considered external motivation though. I think a rewards system is the best way...it is closest to real life situations eg: work (you get a pay check, raises, bonuses, praise for hard work).
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Everything in its own time..... just keep repeating that to yourself. My son is extremely talented in so many ways but he has not been motivated to work harder at the things I thought he should (math, history, etc). I am finally realizing that the more I back off - the more he finds his way. Good luck!
I'm much more internally motivated. I tired to teach the kids to do things for people without them knowing it. We used to drop Christmas presents off at people's home at night. It was such a thrill knowing that you helped someone and didn't worry about getting credit for it.
Everything in its own time..... just keep repeating that to yourself. My son is extremely talented in so many ways but he has not been motivated to work harder at the things I thought he should (math, history, etc). I am finally realizing that the more I back off - the more he finds his way. Good luck!
Maybe that is best...my other children are like me and my husband so I am sometimes unsure how to deal with his different way of doing things...he seems to be content with the middle of the road instead of pushing himself to go the extra mile...
If I dont want to do something it takes alot to get me going, likewise if I REALLY want something I have a determination to do whatever it takes, at all cost so I guess external for me
If I dont want to do something it takes alot to get me going, likewise if I REALLY want something I have a determination to do whatever it takes, at all cost so I guess external for me
So what types of things keep you going?? Did you care about mediocrity with a job or school?
Wow that is awesome. You are teaching your kids well.
I would feel good about doing that too. When I get a raise I just might start doing what you have done with Christmas presents.
I used to do a lot of volunteer work and I felt so wonderful helping out the less fortunate.
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I'm much more internally motivated. I tired to teach the kids to do things for people without them knowing it. We used to drop Christmas presents off at people's home at night. It was such a thrill knowing that you helped someone and didn't worry about getting credit for it.
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