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Okay I understand that. Never said that wasn't an option or a bad one. But obviously it wasn't what I was looking for. But if you guys keep saying that the only way to "help" him is to leave him then fine point taken. End of discussion.
We're only saying this because we've tried and exhausted all ways of "helping" such people and already know it's an impossible task, so there's nothing else to say really... Trust me, I totally understand and relate to (as I said above) your desire to turn your charming irresponsible Romeo into a charming responsible Romeo, but it just ain't gonna happen. If you want to continue being with him you have to accept him for who he is and bear the burdens caused by his actions along. It’s your choice and it’s a valid choice… who am I to tell you not to make it. All we try to do is let you know you're deluding yourself believing he's gonna change.
We're only saying this because we've tried and exhausted all ways of "helping" such people and already know it's an impossible task, so there's nothing else to say really... Trust me, I totally understand and relate to (as I said above) your desire to turn your charming irresponsible Romeo into a charming responsible Romeo, but it just ain't gonna happen. If you want to continue being with him you have to accept him for who he is and bear the burdens caused by his actions along. It’s your choice and it’s a valid choice… who am I to tell you not to make it. All we try to do is let you know you're deluding yourself believing he's gonna change.
My advice is don't open a joint account with him.
Don't move in with him.
Don't marry him.
DO NOT GET PREGNANT!
He may be great in other areas but being able to handle money and take care of himself is a characteristic that is extremely important to have and 26 is too old not to have learned this. I've been there and done that. I'm sorry you aren't liking what you are reading but it is what it is. Unless you want to take care of him for the rest of your life as a mother figure instead of a girlfriend or wife then I suggest you leave.
[quote=carlitasway;5908749]My advice is don't open a joint account with him.
Don't move in with him.
Don't marry him.
DO NOT GET PREGNANT!
I'm not planning to do of those things. thanks anyways
He may be great in other areas but being able to handle money and take care of himself is a characteristic that is extremely important to have and 26 is too old not to have learned this.
I totally agree.
I've been there and done that. I'm sorry you aren't liking what you are reading but it is what it is.
It's not a matter of not liking what i'm reading. Like I said previously I was expecting a different suggestion. Since there are no others, no need to beat a dead horse.
You know the answer. "He sucks as a boyfriend, blah, blah, blah"
Just tell him good-by, and tell him that after a few years, when he has his s**t together, he can call you if you're still available.
Please..have a little self respect.
My advice is don't open a joint account with him.
Don't move in with him.
Don't marry him.
DO NOT GET PREGNANT!
I'm not planning to do of those things. thanks anyways
He may be great in other areas but being able to handle money and take care of himself is a characteristic that is extremely important to have and 26 is too old not to have learned this.
I totally agree.
I've been there and done that. I'm sorry you aren't liking what you are reading but it is what it is.
It's not a matter of not liking what i'm reading. Like I said previously I was expecting a different suggestion. Since there are no others, no need to beat a dead horse.
My advice is don't open a joint account with him.
Don't move in with him.
Don't marry him.
DO NOT GET PREGNANT!
I'm not planning to do of those things. thanks anyways
He may be great in other areas but being able to handle money and take care of himself is a characteristic that is extremely important to have and 26 is too old not to have learned this.
I totally agree.
I've been there and done that. I'm sorry you aren't liking what you are reading but it is what it is.
It's not a matter of not liking what i'm reading. Like I said previously I was expecting a different suggestion. Since there are no others, no need to beat a dead horse.
Not that we are trying to beat a dead horse, or make you feel like we are beating up on you either (because we really aren't), but think about this...if this many experienced women (most of us in our 40's) are all telling you the SAME thing, that might be a good indicator we know what we are talking about - just think about that okay?
Honestly if i had a clue I wouldn't have ask for help. Was checking to see if there was anything I could do to help. apparently the only answer is to leave him.
Like i said previously I want to know I did everything possible to make this work. I don't want any what ifs.
Honestly if i had a clue I wouldn't have ask for help. Was checking to see if there was anything I could do to help. apparently the only answer is to leave him.
Like i said previously I want to know I did everything possible to make this work. I don't want any what ifs.
If you value your sanity, credit record, and self-esteem, yes.
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