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I am still single and 38 y/o female. I live in the South and find people can be out right rude if you are not married by 30. I recall being 33 and being told I was too old to date.
I would love to meet the right one and thought I had once, but he was deployed to Afghanistan and things changed. I pretty much have given up at this point and what hurts the most is how my female friends who I stood up in their weddings have treated me...it is almost like I am a leper b.c. I haven't gotten married and had kids. I try to let it go, but it does hurt to feel treated that way by people you cared for. I don't know why that would be. I don't see myself like that...have had a very successful 6 figure career, two homes, am still attractive and very caring for other people. Oh well, I guess it is easy to judge others until you have walked in their shoes.
I don't think marriage is everything, but I do think being single in your late 30s as a female in the South is very difficult. I wish all of you the best in whatever you choose, but any advice on being single at 38 female is appreciated.
forget about relationships .. too much maintenance
just drink a bottle of wine or 2 a nite and you'll forget all about wanting a relationship! works for me
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Get a cute dog... women are attracted to friendly little dogs. Walking a dog can be a great ice breaker. If you don't have the time to own a dog, volunteer at an animal shelter instead.
I'm single now after my wife passed away 16 year ago this year on Feb 21 2011 and not because i have not tried it because i have not meet the right one it seams to get married to ..I meet my wife at the age of 18 and we where married intill te age of 35 years old when she passed and i been on my own since then raiseing my kids and working and liveing life as it comes to my way ..
I have been on dates with other women and it seam to go well intill they asked a question and they seam to not like the answer and where it was going in the converstion we where haveing about the future and i tell them that the future is wide open but i never be married again i live with the women and do all the partners things but i will never walk down the aslie again ..
Of course, it varies by states. States like Utah and Idaho, where people marry earlier would probably have a lower % of people who have never been married, while the rate might be higher in areas like the NE.
Got this from Utah's vital statistics...
Among Utahan Men,
Aged 14 and younger= 100.0% have never married
15-19= 97.1%
20-24= 65.6%
25-29= 26.7%
30-34= 12.2%
35-39= 7.4%
40-44= 4.5%
45-49= 3.7%
50+= 2.7%
Utahan Women...
Aged 14 and younger= 99.9% have never married
15-19= 89.7%
20-24= 47.1%
25-29= 17.2%
30-34= 8.7%
35-39= 5.2%
40-44= 3.7%
45-49= 3.2%
50+= 2.4%
Idaho, Oklahoma, Mississippi and Kentucky were pretty similar to Utah's rate.
I'm 42 and single and shouldn't be. I'm a guy who wants to be married and in a committed relationship. My ex-wife left 2 years ago and it just crushed me. I wanted to have a family with her. I still want a family, but I'm worried that it may not happen. Add to that the fact my career isn't in a good place, and well, it probably won't happen. I'm very depressed about the whole thing because this isn't the plan I had for my life at all. In fact, it couldn't be farther from it.
I am still single and 38 y/o female. I live in the South and find people can be out right rude if you are not married by 30. I recall being 33 and being told I was too old to date.
I would love to meet the right one and thought I had once, but he was deployed to Afghanistan and things changed. I pretty much have given up at this point and what hurts the most is how my female friends who I stood up in their weddings have treated me...it is almost like I am a leper b.c. I haven't gotten married and had kids. I try to let it go, but it does hurt to feel treated that way by people you cared for. I don't know why that would be. I don't see myself like that...have had a very successful 6 figure career, two homes, am still attractive and very caring for other people. Oh well, I guess it is easy to judge others until you have walked in their shoes.
I don't think marriage is everything, but I do think being single in your late 30s as a female in the South is very difficult. I wish all of you the best in whatever you choose, but any advice on being single at 38 female is appreciated.
Kate, I feel your pain, I really do. I don't judge any woman who is still single in her late 30's, especially after what I've been through and the way I was judged (and I didn't do anything specific to cause my divorce). I also live in the South and understand what you're saying.
Hi I read your post and I just joined today to be able to reply to your post. I am the same age as you 38. I will be 39 in 2 months. I am very depressed over still being single. All my friends are married and have kids or are dating somebody. For some reason men are not drawn to me at all. I also look about 20 yrs younger then I actually am. I look like a teenager instead of a woman. So I don't know if that has anything to do with it. I do not feel I am at all pretty or desirable. But some people tell me I am pretty. I don't know why men do not like me but they don't. My friends act like its no big deal I am single. They are very insensitive to how I feel about it and tell me I should be happy I am free from a mate telling me what to do or kids holding me back from having my own time for myself. I also do not have hardly any friends. SO I Am very miserable and alone. Most times I just feel like I exist. I stopped trying to explain how I feel because no one tries to put themselves in my shoes, but if they have a problem they want me to put myself in their shoes and be all sensitive. I do not know what to do. So I tried to get online to see if I can find other women my age who are bummed over being single. I wanted alot of kids and now its too late. My womb aches for babies and most times I can not sleep. I am not one of those career minded people I just work to be able to pay bills and barely get by. So my issue is I can not find a guy that wants me. I seem to not be any man's type. I know you do not have to be "beautiful" to be married, but most men I meet make me feel hideous even. So my heart is like tragically broken and the worst is my friends and people I meet are so cold about it and heartless. I just gave up on guys period. I can't even adopt because I am in too much debt right now.
Anyhow maybe you will not read this but I wanted you to know if you are still in this situation (maybe you already met mr right) someone understands and cares and "gets you". God bless you always
Of course, it varies by states. States like Utah and Idaho, where people marry earlier
Why so many MORE never-married men from their 20s on up, when the ratio of men:women is about equal; that is, before people start dying off? If a man doesn't marry, then a woman doesn't have someone to marry her. The only logical explanation I can come up with is that some men are doing the multiple marriage thing more than some women.
Wow, 1 in 7 men is NOT married between 40 and 44 while it's 1 in 14 for women. I expected it to be lower than that for men.
Yeah, I deliberately clipped off Utah and Idaho, where people are on a "treadmill" and have stricter norms they have to subscribe to.
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