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Ive followed those for the most part. Usually within 10 minutes of meeting someone my BS-o-meter has sized them up. That usually determines if I'll have anything to do with them.
Some guys havent liked my little policies though...probably why I havent dated much.
I think that's the safe way to be, though. But I've certainly met people who would've thought I was crazy for not letting them visit my apartment until I'd known them for at least four months. BUT, thing is, I can think of at least one guy that I regretted letting into my apartment too early on. (The worst didn't happen, but it was still a poor choice).
I guess I just see something different here. I see a guy who somehow is getting guys to share a lot of information with him. Having pictures of dates is pretty advanced. He feels 95 percent of them are scumbags. 100 percent of them are liers. I wonder, what percentage of them you'd feel should be castrated?
No, this message is not an slap in the face to the ladies, it's more like a PSA.
I was at work last night and some of you on CD know that I manage a mens shelter.
Here's the deal............when you meet "Mr. Right" be sure to ask questions and be sure to get the correct answers.
Here is why I say this: The shelter that I manage has a few guys that I would think many women would consider attractive. I find it it odd that these guys meet as many woman as the do. They do in fact meet these women because they show me texts,photos and tell me about their dates.
I always ask the guys: Do these women know you live in a shelter?
Do these women know about your background( ex-con)
Do these women know about your "habit"?(drugs/drinking)
100% of the time the guys always say: NO, I just lie and make stuff up, I never tell them( the women) about me or my situation.
Ladies be carefull is all I am saying because you never know whom you're meeting and taking home with you.
I am not saying all the guys in my shleter are bad but 95% are ex-cons/drug addicts or a alcoholics.
Just because a guy is good looking,well dressed and speaks well, be cautious. Use your head and common sense.
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Yes, sadly, many women just don't use their brains at all in this area. I've never understood it.
Correction.....I never said they were scumbags. I said 95% of them have one of the 3 problems. That's a fact not a opinion.
I never said 100% were liers neither...........my point in the entire post was for the ladies to be careful. It appears you're the only person that missed that......
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Originally Posted by optiflex
I guess I just see something different here. I see a guy who somehow is getting guys to share a lot of information with him. Having pictures of dates is pretty advanced. He feels 95 percent of them are scumbags. 100 percent of them are liers. I wonder, what percentage of them you'd feel should be castrated?
I dunno, I think you can tell, if you actually wait and really listen. I think there are certain women (and men of course) who so want to believe something that they don't pay attention to the details.
You'd be surprised. I can almost bet that if you saw some of the guys that lived in my shelter, you'd never believe they were homeless.
Just the fact that they are homeless wouldn't be something so aweful. Bad things happen to good people, but the criminal record, drug abuse and all the aweful things I found out could never have been detected from the type of family he came from. They are such 'clean' people.
I dunno, I think you can tell, if you actually wait and really listen. I think there are certain women (and men of course) who so want to believe something that they don't pay attention to the details.
How much warning have you given them???? Like diseases? Working on themselves, instead of relationships? Hope for a better life? Just show me your pics so I can go on the net and warn women about you scumbags? Tell me how you get em so I can warn them? I'm sensing more of a warden than a manager of a shelter.
That's what makes it so tough. I just want the ladies to be careful.
And you're correct, bad things DO happen to good people!!
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Originally Posted by MommyV
Just the fact that they are homeless wouldn't be something so aweful. Bad things happen to good people, but the criminal record, drug abuse and all the aweful things I found out could never have been detected from the type of family he came from. They are such 'clean' people.
I guess I just see something different here. I see a guy who somehow is getting guys to share a lot of information with him. Having pictures of dates is pretty advanced. He feels 95 percent of them are scumbags. 100 percent of them are liers. I wonder, what percentage of them you'd feel should be castrated?
He didn't use the word "scumbags". This is what he said, "I am not saying all the guys in my shleter are bad but 95% are ex-cons/drug addicts or a alcoholics".
Ron is in the trenches, he knows the kind of people he is dealing with and has issued a fair warning to the naive women amongst us. There is nothing wrong with calling a spade a spade - unless you personally WISH to date ex-cons, drug addicts or alcoholics? Most of us would consider that an unwise decision.
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