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It is a complicated situation for you. Your therapist should be helping you to organize your life at this point.
Here is my advice: Let your husband hang out with the kids because that makes everybody happy.
Don't beat yourself up because you don't want to hug or kiss him. Husbands and wives aren't 100% of the time hugging and kissing. My parents spend most of the time away from each other and are happy with that. You need not make yourself feel guilty or troubled over such nonsense.
You need not be so doom and gloom. Haven't you ever watched Dr. Phil? People have far worse going for them (terminal illnesses, child molestation, chronic alcoholism). You need to look on the bright side and organize/plan your days so that you get the most out of it and that includes getting plenty of relaxation too.
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Originally Posted by MS. Confused
I think my husband will move into him place and work on our marraige from his own place, but when I see how happy my children are when he is around it just makes me cry. All I feel like doing when he is not around is cry. But when he is around, I do not feel like hugging him or kissing him. I just dont know why I feel the way I feel.
artsyguy you are right people do have bigger problems and I should be happy that we are at least all healthy. Thanks for your insight. It is just my husband is all I have know my whole life. It's like we are somehow intertwined. I just am going to try to look on the bright side. I just hate knowing that I am causing the people I love pain. My husband says if I really did love him, I would not be doing this. He said you dont cause the people you love pain.
Oh please. Your husband is guilt tripping you. The best relationships need some space in order for it to grow. Space is healthy. He needs to realize that now.
Don't you realize your husband is just aggravated or stressed out? Doesn't he have friends or other people to hang out with? Have you two gone on any dates??? Have you two tried to reestablish a friendship?
Is your husband seeing a counselor?
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Originally Posted by MS. Confused
artsyguy you are right people do have bigger problems and I should be happy that we are at least all healthy. Thanks for your insight. It is just my husband is all I have know my whole life. It's like we are somehow intertwined. I just am going to try to look on the bright side. I just hate knowing that I am causing the people I love pain. My husband says if I really did love him, I would not be doing this. He said you dont cause the people you love pain.
Prozac works for me. It is good for weight loss too!! Concerta is a little newer than Ritalin. I like to keep that around for energy. Of course I need my Vicodin and Relafen because I over do it. Then my Ambien at night.
artsyguy you are right people do have bigger problems and I should be happy that we are at least all healthy. Thanks for your insight. It is just my husband is all I have know my whole life. It's like we are somehow intertwined. I just am going to try to look on the bright side. I just hate knowing that I am causing the people I love pain. My husband says if I really did love him, I would not be doing this. He said you dont cause the people you love pain.
He is right in the sense that you should never deliberately and knowly cause the people you love to be in pain. But I don't believe that you are doing what you are doing to cause him pain as your only goal. You are not a mean person. I also think that you are in pain yourself, and that his pain is just a side effect of the whole situation. Plus to stop causing him pain, would put you in more emotional pain and distress... and it's natural for you to want your pain to stop first.
Prozac works for me. It is good for weight loss too!! Concerta is a little newer than Ritalin. I like to keep that around for energy. Of course I need my Vicodin and Relafen because I over do it. Then my Ambien at night.
Lord girl...you have more chemicals in your body than DuPont! Be careful with all that!
Ritalin and Concerta do the same thing for energy and ADD but when it comes to depression they hit different receptors is what my husband told me...Ritalin seems to get the depression piece...
I am not doing this to intentionally cause him pain. Other people have told me though that he is playing a guilt trip on me. Yes we both are in counciling together.
Lord girl...you have more chemicals in your body than DuPont! Be careful with all that!
Ritalin and Concerta do the same thing for energy and ADD but when it comes to depression they hit different receptors is what my husband told me...Ritalin seems to get the depression piece...
Prozac works for me. It is good for weight loss too!! Concerta is a little newer than Ritalin. I like to keep that around for energy. Of course I need my Vicodin and Relafen because I over do it. Then my Ambien at night.
Does the name Heath Ledger mean anything to you?
I hope you're joking 'cause all that is kind of scary.
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