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Old 12-17-2014, 11:53 PM
 
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Currently I am out of town to visit my parent . My girlfriend just sent me an email and she complained about not being considered for a promotion and bonus while doing a good work . She is feeling really lost now . Please help me by suggesting a few good thing I can say to her to make her happy again. This is the first time I have to deal with this situation.
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Old 12-17-2014, 11:55 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Flowers.
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Old 12-17-2014, 11:58 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Currently I am out of town to visit my parent . My girlfriend just sent me an email and she complained about not being considered for a promotion and bonus while doing a good work . She is feeling really lost now . Please help me by suggesting a few good thing I can say to her to make her happy again. This is the first time I have to deal with this situation.
Start by telling her you know how disappointed she must be and that you are sorry she is feeling down. Tell her you wish you were there to hug her tight.

Tell her you are really proud of her and that you know her time will come. Then recommend she go to bed and sleep it off, that tomorrow will be a better day
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Old 12-18-2014, 12:05 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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... and how YOU feel about it?
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Old 12-18-2014, 12:13 AM
 
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I feel really sad as well, I know that she always tried hard in her job, it is just her coworkers has better traning background than she does, thus they have a slightly better job performance.
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Old 12-18-2014, 01:00 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I feel really sad as well, I know that she always tried hard in her job, it is just her coworkers has better traning background than she does, thus they have a slightly better job performance.
You can say the first part. Don't say the second part.
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Old 12-18-2014, 01:57 AM
 
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Let here know that More opportunities will come. So will more disappointments. Encourage her to keep doing the best that she can until her next chance at promotion comes. Be strong for her.

When you get home treat her to a nice warm scented oil full body massage. Give her a little something to relax her body.
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Old 12-18-2014, 05:23 AM
 
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Tell her that even though she disappointed everyone and herself this time around, in a couple years another opportunity might come up, and she is probably qualified for that! Get her donuts, everyone likes donuts.
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Old 12-18-2014, 06:21 AM
 
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Be sympathetic, supportive, encouraging...
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Old 12-18-2014, 06:25 AM
 
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Here's the thing: many men innately believe that when their female partners discuss a problem, we are looking to you to "fix" it. We're not. We just want you to listen and support us when something like this happens.

It's not your job to "make her happy again." Just be there for her.
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