Do gay men appeal to you? (dating, wives, boyfriend, marriage)

[artsyguy]

I don't get it and I'm a so-called "Gay".

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

No. They hold no appeal for me. Simply don't get the whole gay/lesbian thing. Totally beyond my comprehension. Guess I'm a dinosaur.

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by smoky_topaz

I've found myself getting enamoured of gay men a lot. Not that I "like like" them, I just wonder, are they like surrogate girlfriends? Brothers?

I'm only attracted to Artsy!

[trustmeiknow]

A lot of the celebrities I had crushes on growing up turned out to be gay. I guess I used to like the more sensitive, "pretty" types. I wish I had some gay guy friends because they seem fun to be with and certainly honest when giving you advice on other guys and how you look.

[edwardius]

Originally Posted by HairyandScary

One thing I never have been able to understand is how some hetrosexual men still even today have issues with gays.
I just don't get it?
Are they worried they might turn gay?
The way I see it the more gay men I see when I'm out (Bars,clubs) the better.It eliminates the competition on those of us chasing the ladies

For straight males it is very rare to ever be on the receiving end of unwanted sexual attention. If a woman expresses interest in you, generally it means you have a good chance of getting laid or at least you hope you do. So you have no frame of reference or first hand experience in dealing with any type of unwanted sexual attention (sexual harrassment).

Most straight women have a life time of experience of getting some sexual attention from men they aren't interested in and that means they have more experience in both handling those situations and dealing with the feelings that it creates. They may be equally annoyed, but probably have enough experience with it where they are better at managing the situation and concealing their true feelings.

The only times, I have ever been on the receiving end of unwanted sexual attention (felt sexually harrassed) were from gay men. When it happens, it usually catches me off guard and I get really annoyed. To this day, I hate going shopping at the Banana Republic and prefer to avoid those situations where I think there will be a lot of gay men.

[ellie]

Originally Posted by edwardius

For straight males it is very rare to ever be on the receiving end of unwanted sexual attention.

I think your post sums up a lot. Women, regardless of age or beauty, are subject to a constant background noise of unwanted attention.

With our gay male friends, we generally know that our friendships are based on something other than their getting lucky.

[gizmobizmo]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I don't care about their sexual preference. It's their behavior I can't stand. I suppose my opinion is based only on those who play the feminine part - the high-pitched voices, mannerism, snobbish attitudes, stupid remarks, etc...

Amen, sister!

I have had friends who were gay and I have a brother who is gay. My friends were easier to get along with. My brother, on the other hand, is a flaming, in your face, militant gay. His snobbery and crappy attitude is a put off for most. I could care less about whether someone is gay but there is no reason to act like such an in your face B**CH. I don't go around slamming my "Heterosexuality" in peoples faces. Folks like that are not helping to improve other peoples opinions of gays in general.

To answer the OP's question............I think that a lot of gay men are attractive, well-groomed and snazzy dressers. Most of the gay guys I have known were also pretty nice guys and had a lot of respect for women which, of course, would make them appealing.

Ever notice that you will seldom see a fat, beer-swilling, belching, butt scratching, sloppy gay man hanging out with his equally fat, beer-swilling, belching, butt-scratching, sloppy friends???? That's right. You usually don't see it.

[lola8822]

My friend in HS was a gay guy.....he was the best friend i've ever had.......

Since i'm not "allowed" to hang out with strait men I've found that gay men are the perfect alternative....They are amazing shoppers, confidants and omg are they loyal.....hmmm.....I need to find one of these again.....

[no8fann]

Originally Posted by gizmobizmo

Amen, sister!

I could care less about whether someone is gay but there is no reason to act like such an in your face B**CH. I don't go around slamming my "Heterosexuality" in peoples faces.

I couldn't agree more. It's not my place to judge, but I don't go so far as to say that I agree with it...I just don't like it when they are in your face about it. Everyone is who they are, and each person has value to me whether or not they agree with my views. Gay or straight has no bearing on whether I get along with someone and can call them my friend!

[tao]

I adore gay men and have had a few crushes on some gay men in the past. And strangely, I've had a couple of gay male friends who had a mutual crush on me (I'm female). These were cases where they were definitely gay but there was an attraction between us despite their sexual orientation. To gay men reading this thread, is that odd or can that happen in special cases?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by gizmobizmo

Ever notice that you will seldom see a fat, beer-swilling, belching, butt scratching, sloppy gay man hanging out with his equally fat, beer-swilling, belching, butt-scratching, sloppy friends???? That's right. You usually don't see it.

LOL, that's true! Apparently we women are a whole lot more forgiving!