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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:31 PM
 
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Default The honest truth...

Ok, most of you know my history by now so not hashing it out again.

I have been back to dating for about 5-6weeks and while I am getting dates, some of excellent quality...it takes a while to cultivate those relationships. (Expecially because with on-line dating the first date or two is blind and they are REALLY cautious.)

I was involuntarily celibate during the last part of my marriage due to her illness and then was just off the market all together for a while after that ended. Total of about 2 years of no "fun" for me and it's starting to bug me.


Basically, I have a decent moral code but I find myself thinking about picking up someone for casual sex. (Yeah, I'd wrap it up...that's a given) Problem is I haven't really done this before...maybe just venting about it is the answer. I also have a gal I dated that would probably be good to go if I spent another date or two with her but that would be my only interest as we are not a LT fit at all. Hmmm....I will probably drop her a note.
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:32 PM
 
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Man, math guy, you've really disappointed me. Casual sex is for losers man. You can do much better with your life.
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:35 PM
 
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Man, math guy, you've really disappointed me. Casual sex is for losers man. You can do much better with your life.
Oh, good grief!!! Be safe but, enjoy yourself Mathguy!!!
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:37 PM
 
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Ok, most of you know my history by now so not hashing it out again.

I have been back to dating for about 5-6weeks and while I am getting dates, some of excellent quality...it takes a while to cultivate those relationships. (Expecially because with on-line dating the first date or two is blind and they are REALLY cautious.)

I was involuntarily celibate during the last part of my marriage due to her illness and then was just off the market all together for a while after that ended. Total of about 2 years of no "fun" for me and it's starting to bug me.


Basically, I have a decent moral code but I find myself thinking about picking up someone for casual sex. (Yeah, I'd wrap it up...that's a given) Problem is I haven't really done this before...maybe just venting about it is the answer. I also have a gal I dated that would probably be good to go if I spent another date or two with her but that would be my only interest as we are not a LT fit at all. Hmmm....I will probably drop her a note.
I got the perfect faith in that whatever you decide will be the right choice.
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:37 PM
 
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Man, math guy, you've really disappointed me. Casual sex is for losers man. You can do much better with your life.
It's a temporary thing, just something I'm toying with...besides, with your rash of posts lately I honestly don't know when you are being serious or not.
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:40 PM
 
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I'm being serious with you. I hate casual sex. It is the ultimate of greed and vanity imo (besides being a pervert). It is worse than seeing 400 pound people at an all you can eat buffet stuffing greasy food down their throats....

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It's a temporary thing, just something I'm toying with...besides, with your rash of posts lately I honestly don't know when you are being serious or not.
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:45 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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Ok, most of you know my history by now so not hashing it out again.

I have been back to dating for about 5-6weeks and while I am getting dates, some of excellent quality...it takes a while to cultivate those relationships. (Expecially because with on-line dating the first date or two is blind and they are REALLY cautious.)

I was involuntarily celibate during the last part of my marriage due to her illness and then was just off the market all together for a while after that ended. Total of about 2 years of no "fun" for me and it's starting to bug me.


Basically, I have a decent moral code but I find myself thinking about picking up someone for casual sex. (Yeah, I'd wrap it up...that's a given) Problem is I haven't really done this before...maybe just venting about it is the answer. I also have a gal I dated that would probably be good to go if I spent another date or two with her but that would be my only interest as we are not a LT fit at all. Hmmm....I will probably drop her a note.
Oh geez.....magazines, tv, movies, cyber sex (and no that wasn't an offer ).....anything but that.....it will make you feel trashy and she'd probably be trashy
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:47 PM
 
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Yes. Trashy plus the guilt and shame that lingers for a while. lol....great feelings huh!!!


good post lola....glad somebody agrees with me...


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Oh geez.....magazines, tv, movies, cyber sex (and no that wasn't an offer ).....anything but that.....it will make you feel trashy and she'd probably be trashy
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:48 PM
 
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I'm being serious with you. I hate casual sex. It is the ultimate of greed and vanity imo (besides being a pervert). It is worse than seeing 400 pound people at an all you can eat buffet stuffing greasy food down their throats....
I've been having a tough time lately with loneliness. Is it too much to ask that I find someone that could also use some general affection? I'm not hurting anyone, can't get anyone pregnant or diseased...not making anyone promises of love...it still goes against a lot of core things in me but I have needs.

Vanity it is not.
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Unread 11-06-2008, 12:50 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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I've been having a tough time lately with loneliness. Is it too much to ask that I find someone that could also use some general affection? I'm not hurting anyone, can't get anyone pregnant or diseased...not making anyone promises of love...it still goes against a lot of core things in me but I have needs.

Vanity it is not.
(((((hugs))))))

alrighty...your all set
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