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Old 11-09-2008, 10:33 AM
 
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This thread is dedicated to all the liars, cheats, scum and married guys chasing women etc. that inhabit on-line dating and make life so difficult not just for the women but for the men.

Me personally, *I love*, (yeah that broke your sarcasm meter) the fact that a widower that would never hurt a woman, coming off a good 13 year marriage, raising 2 kids, having a nice home and extremely healthy income...gets to show up to meet dates that are fearful for their safety, that he is really married or a general pervert. Yeah, there is some REAL romance going on in those situations....sweet jesus they look ready to bolt from moment one. What the heck is wrong with people?

I swear I'd help beat the crap out of the guy if it would help to remove any of the scar tissue my dates seem to come draped in anymore.

Ugh, just about ready to remove my profile.
Geez Mathguy. Are you REALLY having this much trouble? I don't get it. I've met so many nice guys online, had many nice dates. Yes there were some losers and folks that misrepresented themselves, but I dropkick those quickly, and never look back. But I sure don't have any "scar tissue".... Are you sure you don't have something in your profile that is attracting such types?
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Old 11-09-2008, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Well, he sounds quite upset and is yet to tell us why exactly... Generally what he's saying is probably correct.
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Old 11-09-2008, 06:29 PM
 
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Maybe he doesn't live in the area you live in...Maybe he has higher standards than you......Maybe he's met ladies that are sociopaths...you get the idea Mrs. Happy Helper Pants

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Geez Mathguy. Are you REALLY having this much trouble? I don't get it. I've met so many nice guys online, had many nice dates. Yes there were some losers and folks that misrepresented themselves, but I dropkick those quickly, and never look back. But I sure don't have any "scar tissue".... Are you sure you don't have something in your profile that is attracting such types?
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Old 11-09-2008, 06:34 PM
 
Location: Kentucky Bluegrass
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Mathguy
don't give up....I did...met nothing but players and lyers...so, I gave up...don't do it...keep on, keepin on...

I've now become so comfortable being alone, that I wouldn't trade it for the world.

I remember when I first started dating and doing the online thing...my girlfriend told me, she feared if I didn't meet someone decent, I'd become to comfortable with my independence and never meet someone...but in my case, honestly, I really don't believe I want anyone in my life...I'm way to happy now?

but don't give up...take the good with the bad and keep on trying...

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Old 11-09-2008, 06:36 PM
 
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^ second that
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Old 11-09-2008, 06:43 PM
 
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Maybe he doesn't live in the area you live in...Maybe he has higher standards than you......Maybe he's met ladies that are sociopaths...you get the idea Mrs. Happy Helper Pants
Well excuuuuuuuse me!!
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Old 11-09-2008, 07:15 PM
 
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lol good come back

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Well excuuuuuuuse me!!
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Old 11-09-2008, 07:29 PM
 
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Maybe just not the right one yet Mathguy?

When the right lady shows up for her date with you, it's not going to matter if she dated Attila the Hun and all his mates before she got to you, she'll be able to discern that you are not another dropkick.

Sounds like the ladies you've dated so far aren't able to put the past behind them and move forward treating you as a clean slate. That's more their issue than yours.

I know it can get frustrating out there but soon enough the "right" connection will come along and there you'll be. Try not to lose heart in the meantime.
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Old 11-09-2008, 07:29 PM
 
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Geez Mathguy. Are you REALLY having this much trouble? I don't get it. I've met so many nice guys online, had many nice dates. Yes there were some losers and folks that misrepresented themselves, but I dropkick those quickly, and never look back. But I sure don't have any "scar tissue".... Are you sure you don't have something in your profile that is attracting such types?
I basically just had back to back dates with women that SHOULD NOT be dating. (One just got out of an abusive relationship.) Suffice to say that they seemed more than a little apprehensive being there...and I will not be taking them out a second time. (What a time waster ).

So, I changed my profile to say that if you are afraid of dating...go elsewhere. (in a nice way).

No, I'm not having that much trouble. I probably got (not exaggerating) 10 new women contacting me this weekend of which 2-3 are decent. I am currently at least at a dating phase with 2 pretty stellar gals but due to circumstances won't be seeing them for about 2-3 weeks which is frustrating.
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Old 11-09-2008, 07:31 PM
 
Location: somewhere south of Canada
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Mathguy, I'll be happy to give you the addresses of the guys who scarred me so you can beat the crap out of them

Seriously though, a lot of women in my (our) age group have been treated like garbage, over and over and over and it's hard to go out on a first date, with someone you've never met, and not be a bit cautious.

I don't go out and immediately bring up all the past issues I had with my exes, but the past few guys I've dated have brought it up first. They want to figure out "what's wrong with me" that I haven't been married yet. Like being divorced a bunch of times would be better? I try to gloss over the breakups by saying things like "it just didn't work out" or "we wanted different things" not telling the guy that the "different things" were that I wanted a happy life together, and he wanted to go out and **** someone else.

From the posts I've read, you sound like a really great guy and I hope you find someone who appreciates all that you have to offer.
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