Question for Men about women (date, boyfriend, love, attracted)

[Whyte Byrd]

Aside from bad hygiene, which we're all in agreement over--it's baaaad, what are the three biggest turn-offs about a woman when you're going for first impressions, say, with a first or blind date?

[JonathanLB]

Hmm, well I will assume bad hygiene covers things like dirty fingernails and all of that, so... let's see...

I think messed up teeth in general, that's pretty bad. Like really yellow or crooked or something. Teeth are kind of a big deal to me, I love beautiful, straight, white teeth on a girl, a great smile is really nice to see.

Turn-offs I assume can include non-physical things? Because if so I would say text messaging while I'm out with her. That's really annoying. It's different if she says, "This is my sister, sorry I have to text her" or something, but if she's constantly texting that is a huge turn off, I just want her gone at that point.

Fat. That'd be another.

[Timm]

• Being late/not being ready.

• Phone calls/texts while on the date.

• Being no help at all with the date planning. Let me know what kind of places you like and things you like to do. "Oh, anything is fine" doesn't cut it. Lemme know what you like to do and what you like to eat and you'll probably find yourself doing it and eating it. Otherwise it's kind of a crapshoot
• Smoking.

[kygman]

Talking about her last boyfriend. At least she did wait till the second date before telling me they did "it" at her parents' house while they were at work. Another problem is a spoiled "Daddy's little girl". I couldn't afford some of the things she wanted everytime "I want" came out of her mouth. She wanted to go to a concert over 200 miles away and $75 tickets. May not sound like much now but when we got front row seats for the Doobie Brothers during their big time for $25 each, I wasn't forking over the other! And, yes, that was on the first date! She told me later Daddy bought them and was going to take a day off work to drive her to the concert. He was going to find a coffee shop nearby and wait for her!

[Ron.]

Talking about your job and I did not ask you anything about it.

[Oildog]

Smoking
Texting or taking multiple cell calls (I feign illness and end date if this is the case)
Chatterbox. I want to have a conversation, not listen to you prattle on.

[Ron.]

O-Dog,


You got that right..

Originally Posted by Oildog

Smoking
Texting or taking multiple cell calls (I feign illness and end date if this is the case)
Chatterbox. I want to have a conversation, not listen to you prattle on.

[Xpat]

1. Self absorption - always a turn off.

2. Mental case with hangups about too many things (aka the full Samsonite set of emotional baggage).

3. No substance, no interests, no ideas of her own.

[2goldens]

discuss = yes

insult = no!

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by Public_Newsense

Aside from bad hygiene, which we're all in agreement over--it's baaaad, what are the three biggest turn-offs about a woman when you're going for first impressions, say, with a first or blind date?

1. Calling or texting during the date. It's bad enough people do it while driving, but it's unacceptable during a date.

2. Monopolizing the conversation. I personally like women who talk a lot. That's a lot better than the opposite. But no one wants to be with someone who dominates the conversation or never lets you finish what you have to say.

3. Dressing in a way that looks too showy. Some women are gorgeous and know it. They have bodies they know will cause men's jaws to drop. But there's something to be said for restraint. I see women who look they're trying too hard. They wear clothes that are too tight and/or revealing and it just sends out the impression this person is trying too hard or maybe showing off. They may be trying to turn you on, but it can have the opposite effect. I'm more attracted to a woman who's confident enough in herself that she doesn't need to try so hard to impress me, maybe because she knows she has more to offer than just her looks.