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Old 11-20-2008, 10:38 AM
 
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this news article is sobering.

I have no love lost for men who abuse their women!
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Old 11-20-2008, 10:43 AM
 
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this news article is sobering.

I have no love lost for men who abuse their women!
thats horrible! one of my coworkers was in an abusive relationship and when i was int he call center, it was a secure floor but somehow her boyfriend got ont he floor, went to her cubicle and dragged her away by her hair! we all called 911 and my sup called building secuirty who caught them int he staircase arguing. that was so scary!
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Old 11-20-2008, 10:57 AM
 
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We had a staff member at our practice who was always coming in with bruises and tons of excuses...the boom on the boat hit me, I fell down the steps, etc...it was just heartbreaking. Other staff members, myself and my husband asked her outright if her boyfriend was hurting her and she giggled and said "no". She called in sick to work one day and said she would be in the next day but she did not show. We called and she did not call back and this went on for a week.

Unfortunately we had to let her go because she did no come in for over a week. When I finally got her on the phone and I asked her why she did not call back or at least email she said "I figured no one really cared if I showed up or not"...It was horrible and I wept at my desk.

After some soul searching, I called her mother as she was listed as an emergency contact to tell her our concerns about her daughter. Her mother began to cry and she promised to call back.

She called back the next day...she had gone to her daughters house, the house was TRASHED with broken furniture, contents of cabinets strewn about and her daughter crying in a fetal position on the floor.

Her boyfriend had come in on a rampage and beat her up and trashed her home.

He is in jail awaiting trail, she is back working for us and doing beautifully.

These situations are so serious for the abused and those around her. While this was going on we found out from other staff members that the womans boyfriend had shown up to our place of business and tapped on windows outdoors to get her to come out, walked into the patient waiting room and stood at the sliding glass check in window to get her attention...
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Old 11-20-2008, 11:00 AM
 
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We had a staff member at our practice who was always coming in with bruises and tons of excuses...the boom on the boat hit me, I fell down the steps, etc...it was just heartbreaking. Other staff members, myself and my husband asked her outright if her boyfriend was hurting her and she giggled and said "no". She called in sick to work one day and said she would be in the next day but she did not show. We called and she did not call back and this went on for a week.

Unfortunately we had to let her go because she did no come in for over a week. When I finally got her on the phone and I asked her why she did not call back or at least email she said "I figured no one really cared if I showed up or not"...It was horrible and I wept at my desk.

After some soul searching, I called her mother as she was listed as an emergency contact to tell her our concerns about her daughter. Her mother began to cry and she promised to call back.

She called back the next day...she had gone to her daughters house, the house was TRASHED with broken furniture, contents of cabinets strewn about and her daughter crying in a fetal position on the floor.

Her boyfriend had come in on a rampage and beat her up and trashed her home.

He is in jail awaiting trail, she is back working for us and doing beautifully.

These situations are so serious for the abused and those around her. While this was going on we found out from other staff members that the womans boyfriend had shown up to our place of business and tapped on windows outdoors to get her to come out, walked into the patient waiting room and stood at the sliding glass check in window to get her attention...
That is absolutely horrible.
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Old 11-20-2008, 11:02 AM
 
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That is absolutely horrible.
It was heartbreaking but she is doing so well now! She has her head on straight and is really doing an amazing job at work. The other amazing piece is she is in the medical field and she is so well educated on the issue but she was still a victim...
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Old 11-20-2008, 11:03 AM
 
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Thank goodness she got her job back with caring coworkers. Unusual, but what a good ending.
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Old 11-20-2008, 11:06 AM
 
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Thank goodness she got her job back with caring coworkers. Unusual, but what a good ending.
Well thanks but she deserved it...everyone loves this woman and she is like family to all of us...it was easy to welcome her back.

We did put a gun in the drawer at the front desk...he was unstable and vicious.

We also found out later that security had "escorted" him from the parking lot premises after they had seen him "wandering" ...creepy guy...hopefully he is having fun being someone's "girlfriend" in jail...

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Old 11-20-2008, 11:37 AM
 
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I just read all four pages of the linked article. I could identify with so much of what it listed - the constant phone calls to see where I was, must call from a land line, the unenthusiatically received bouquets of flowers, his controlling the money that I was earning, etc. The article states 1 in 10, but I wouldn't doubt if the rate is even higher - and it happens to all walks of life, all races, all cultures. I am shocked at how far the men in the article took this abuse of power and maniacal desire to control another human being - but apparently it is all too common. I believe the first case of this I heard about was the Dorothy Stratten story back when I was a child (kill the woman, then turn the weapon on yourself). Having been in an abusive relationship similar to the ones described in the article, I can say that getting out of it isn't an easy task, and that in itself can be the trigger to the murder/suicide.

A colleague of mine at a previous job was carried out by others in a hysterical fit - she was wailing uncontrollably and we never saw her again. We had suspected that her husband had been abusing her but to this day I wish she would have accepted our help before the coward blew his brains out in his last act of violence against her (thank God he didn't take her with him). She was advised in an email she received at the office around 11:00 am and from what I heard, the contents of the email was typical manipulative sociopathic guilt-tripping. No one should have to wield the burden of another person's actions.

You're right - very sobering article. I hope someday this will be adressed in time and in a fashion to avoid further death of innocent people.
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Old 11-20-2008, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Montrose, CA
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this news article is sobering.

I have no love lost for men who abuse their women!
Women abuse men too.
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Old 11-20-2008, 12:18 PM
 
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Women abuse men too.
And both men and women abuse their pets too.
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