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My X and I have recently broken up over diffrent issues but the main one is that last year he left me for an other women for a dating site. We got back together 3 months later but he never let her go.. He kept taking to her and seing her at least one a week. He was keeping it a secret at first until one day I found out the truth. I never accepted it and to this day I don't. My issue is that i am still deeply in love with him and he wants to stay friends with me. I find it difficult because i still love him and i can only bring myself to think that he want back to her... He claims he does not want anything from the both of us.. Just friends. We still have sexual relations and i feel worst after it happends because i know he will just leave after the night is over... My question is should you stay friends or just never talk to him again ....
But think about your mental health that's at stake. That's more important than a toxic relationship.
Relationships can be draining, some more than others. Whatever you decide to do don't put your mental health on the line to save sometrhing that, IMO, is not worth saving.
You know this and it's a hard pill to swallow but he's not the only guy that's worthy of your time. At this point he does not seem very worthy.
Think about your mental health. That's most important.
I'd say make a big effort to move on. That's my final answer.
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Originally Posted by Sweetmel2118
My X and I have recently broken up over diffrent issues but the main one is that last year he left me for an other women for a dating site. We got back together 3 months later but he never let her go.. He kept taking to her and seing her at least one a week. He was keeping it a secret at first until one day I found out the truth. I never accepted it and to this day I don't. My issue is that i am still deeply in love with him and he wants to stay friends with me. I find it difficult because i still love him and i can only bring myself to think that he want back to her... He claims he does not want anything from the both of us.. Just friends. We still have sexual relations and i feel worst after it happends because i know he will just leave after the night is over... My question is should you stay friends or just never talk to him again ....
So you are saying i should not be friends with him.. We do other stuff together and i am very close to him family... I really dont have close family on my side. Maybe i am just trying to find exuces to keep him in my life.. He always tells me that he will be there for me and that he still loves me ( but not in love with me). But in an other way i always ask about how many times i sees her and how many times he talks to her..
My X and I have recently broken up over diffrent issues but the main one is that last year he left me for an other women for a dating site. We got back together 3 months later but he never let her go.. He kept taking to her and seing her at least one a week. He was keeping it a secret at first until one day I found out the truth. I never accepted it and to this day I don't. My issue is that i am still deeply in love with him and he wants to stay friends with me. I find it difficult because i still love him and i can only bring myself to think that he want back to her... He claims he does not want anything from the both of us.. Just friends. We still have sexual relations and i feel worst after it happends because i know he will just leave after the night is over... My question is should you stay friends or just never talk to him again ....
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Not unless you have children with them, or quite a bit of time has passed.
I was involved with a young lady(K.B.) sometime ago that I really felt could have been "the one". Long story short, I was close to her family as well and they made me apart of their family but KB and I went our seperate ways and it was tough. You have to do things cold turkey sometimes. All communications/activities ceased. I mean all!
Whatever you do don't think remaing friends is going to give you an opportunity to change someone. That usualy does not happen.
See underlined red below, that's your answer:
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Originally Posted by Sweetmel2118
So you are saying i should not be friends with him.. We do other stuff together and i am very close to him family... I really dont have close family on my side. Maybe i am just trying to find exuces to keep him in my life.. He always tells me that he will be there for me and that he still loves me ( but not in love with me). But in an other way i always ask about how many times i sees her and how many times he talks to her..
I can almost guarantee this is how it is going to play out....
You will still be friends with benefits. When you finally tire of it, and try to move on, he will suddenly claim that he loves you and wants you back. You will abandon that relationship, only to be hurt again..
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