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My advice would be to sit him down and tell him how you feel.
He is not a mind reader (unfortunetly, none of them are lol..)
Let him know what gets you going.
we have plenty of foreplay, but he does not deal with emotions except horniness, I do feel disconnected emotionaly, and if we were closer in that way I could probably be hornier at all times...
Ahaha!
I knew it...............Ahaha!
One of the most common problems as to why marriages have dysfunctional sex. Yeah, tell him what you need emotionally. That's why men and women need communication.
Somehow, I feel like a marriage counselor/dating expert. Hmmm.
My advice would be to sit him down and tell him how you feel.
He is not a mind reader (unfortunetly, none of them are lol..)
Let him know what gets you going.
One of the most common problems as to why marriages have dysfunctional sex. Yeah, tell him what you need emotionally. That's why men and women need communication.
Somehow, I feel like a marriage counselor/dating expert. Hmmm.
lol, that's funny, I have no idea nor will I ever understand how an emotional connection would make you want to have sex more, but then again I'm not a girl.
A week without sex if I was with a girl would seriously be horrible. Heck, a day without would be a big deal.
I think the typical guy associates sex pretty closely with love. If you turn down his sexual advances he takes it that you don't want HIM.
Rejection of a sexual advance doesn't have to be taken personally, but it often is, and some (including me at times) have a tough time with rejection. It's easier (safer) to just take the attitude, "well, let me know when you're ready."
We're conditioned to think this way from birth, yanno? We reach for the pretty knickknack on the shelf and Momma says, "NO!" We repeat the action a couple more times and discover that Momma always says no; we quickly learn not to reach for the knickknack. When Momma wants us to have it, she'll give it to us.
A good way for a woman to keep her guy from feeling rejected is to let him know ahead of time that you're not going to be interested in sex (tonight, tomorrow, for the next four days, etc.), because you are (sick, tired, starting your period). That way the guy knows not to ask and doesn't have to feel rejected. If you do that, then you (hopefully) won't be rejecting his advances, and he'll be more inclined to make advances more often.
i think you should play a game with him to spice things up. go to a bar and let him come into the bar minutes later. let him try to pick you up as if you didn't know him. should make it fun.
i think you should play a game with him to spice things up. go to a bar and let him come into the bar minutes later. let him try to pick you up as if you didn't know him. should make it fun.
My late wife and I were planning to play out that little game. She'd bought a "hooker's outfit" and we planned to go into the city and have fun with it. Unfortunately we never got to.
One more thing, he told me when I met him he was a virgin, I think he has no previous experience to go on, only porn
This could be the very problem. If he's basing his sex life off of porn, he needs a reality check. You need to flatly explain to him that porn is not real life, unlike in porn, women are not always in the mood to have sex but it does not mean we never want sex again.
It sounds like you are missing out on intimacy (not the same thing as sex) in your relationship. A good relationship is based on three things. Therapists will compare it to the a three legged stool.
The three legs that hold a marriage together are friendship, intimacy, and sex. You need all of these things to be strong to hold your marriage up. Do you ever talk about your feelings, dreams, desires? Do you ever cuddle together or share a romantic meal with small talk? These are the types of things that create intimacy in a relationship. Intimacy is those special moments that you share together, they sometimes can lead to sex, but intimacy is not necessarily connected to sex.
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