Passionate about something....? (wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, marriage)

[SubaruFiend]

Say you're really passionate about something....... like I'm very passionate about taking dance lessons (all kinds, ballroom, hip hop).... and I want to put a LOT of time, money and effort into it.........

If you have a passion like that (I'd like to hear from people who DO put a lot of time and money into their passion) ....... do you still have time for a boyfriend/girlfriend????

Like I still want to balance having a boyfriend..... is it possible??????

Cuz when you have a dream, and that dream starts to take off, do you leave your SO behind? Or bring them along for the ride??? (and how do you manage to balance it all???)

[averagejoe76]

You shouldnt have a problem having a relationship as long as your..
Partner is aware of how important your passion is and can accept it.

[chance2jump]

Avg Joe is absolutely correct. Your passion is a part of what makes you who you are. When your SO comes along, they either accept who you are or they do not. If they do not, then the relationship will most likely be doomed. But, I digress.

I am passionate about my horse hobby. My husband knew that from the day he met me, and I made it clear that if he wasn't on board for all it entailed, he needed to move on. He had no idea what that fully meant.

I spend several thousand a year in boarding, feeding, maintenance, care and upkeep. It is a way of life, not just a hobby I can put aside and come back if I don't have time or money.

If there is someone you are interested in that wants to be with "you" - he/she accepts every part of you. If you personally decide to cut back on the time or money you put towards your passion, that is your decision. But, if you give it up based on your SO .. then you're just asking for a lot of problems later on because you gave it up for the wrong reasons.

[sportsfangal]

my passion happens to be football. I travel for work, but I always fly home to CO for home openers, and I also pick a game on the road to a city I've never been to. Some people think that's weird but I don't care. I happen to be single, but my ex bf also loved sports and we were able to go to some games together.

Originally Posted by SubaruFiend

Say you're really passionate about something....... like I'm very passionate about taking dance lessons (all kinds, ballroom, hip hop).... and I want to put a LOT of time, money and effort into it.........

If you have a passion like that (I'd like to hear from people who DO put a lot of time and money into their passion) ....... do you still have time for a boyfriend/girlfriend????

Like I still want to balance having a boyfriend..... is it possible??????

Cuz when you have a dream, and that dream starts to take off, do you leave your SO behind? Or bring them along for the ride??? (and how do you manage to balance it all???)

[CityGirl72]

I have kids now - I've forgotten what it's like to have a passion

So no time for myself or for my husband, and he's says he's in the same boat - it's just non stop child rearing

[Mr.Cat]

Originally Posted by averagejoe76

You shouldnt have a problem having a relationship as long as your..
Partner is aware of how important your passion is and can accept it.

Enough said!

[andreaspercheron]

I'm passionate about my horses and riding. I spend a lot of time not only doing the manual labor of having my own horses but I spend a lot of time riding, grooming, cleaning stalls, etc... the usual. It's a very expensive hobby too but... my fiance understands that horses are VERY important in my life and that I've always had something to do with them whether it be riding, training, or giving lessons.. it just has to be and we do what we need to do to make it happen.
I manage my time pretty well so no one feels left out.

[amanda0808]

I'm passionate about several things, including music (guitar) and playing sports. I put a lot of my time into these things. Unfortunately, a few guys I've dated claimed that I didn't make enough time for them. This was probably my fault, though, because I tend to get caught up in these types of activities and it's easy to shut out the rest of the world.

However, I'm sure if I taught myself to be less-consumed with these activities, guys would start complaining less.

[VBmom]

I am passionate about my family. I love planning wonderful dinners, decorating a beautiful table and having all 5 of us sit down, relax and enjoy each other's company. I love taking road trips with the whole crew, packing a lunch or finding some obscure restaurant along the way. Driving with no real destination in mind and finding something interesting to do in a new town. With the oldest off at college these times with all five of us are limited. I cherish them more than anything.

[Crew Chief]

The "other woman" in our marriage is a red Freightliner truck. My loving wife agreed to marry me even though I warned her I HAD to get into trucking when I retired from the military. Yes, it takes up FAR too much of my time. But we manage. What helps a lot, I believe, is that she is just as passionate about teaching. We definitely connect on that level. We hope one day soon to be able to cut back on work a little more and spend more time together. But having a strong marriage helps us to both have our passion for work AND each other. Best of luck!