Monogamy (how to, marry, guys, love)

[crystalblue]

Its easy for people to argue for it.

But can you come up with some good reasons against it?

[Twinkle Toes]

I can, but I'm backing up on outta here before I start some kind of a riot ..........

[SubaruFiend]

Sure, some people just aren't wired to be able to stay with one person. Sometimes it's because of past experiences, or they just don't like being buckled down to one person.

Me personally, while I like feeling "admired" by guys (and therefore going out and flirting and what not) I LOVE feeling loved by one guy. It's so much more fulfilling to love and be loved.

[Glitterific]

I don't believe everyone can be monogamous. I believe people can want to be, but they make mistakes.

I just wish the ones who know they can't be monogamous wouldn't pass themselves off as the type who can be. There would be a lot less brokenhearts in the world.

[amanda0808]

Monogamy is great but it is often ruined by guys or gals who don't know how to remain faithful. Not only that, sometimes their partners feel obligated to stay with them regardless, whether it's because of financial reasons, kids, religious beliefs, etc. This is when monogamy takes a turn for the worst.

[PurpleLove08]

Originally Posted by SubaruFiend

Sure, some people just aren't wired to be able to stay with one person. Sometimes it's because of past experiences, or they just don't like being buckled down to one person.

Me personally, while I like feeling "admired" by guys (and therefore going out and flirting and what not) I LOVE feeling loved by one guy. It's so much more fulfilling to love and be loved.

You can love and be loved by more than one person.

I don't think everyone can be monogamous and I think as long as you're open with your partner or partners, I don't see anything wrong with NOT being monogamous as long as you're not hurting anyone else. I understand some people can hurt emotionally but I mean in the manner of STDs, pregnancy, etc.

[stan4]

Because I don't really believe there is one right person for any other person and that different times of your lives come with different needs. People in relationships also change and then do not fit together as well.

[Driller1]

Originally Posted by stan4

Because I don't really believe there is one right person for any other person and that different times of your lives come with different needs. People in relationships also change and then do not fit together as well.

100% agreed!!!!

[optiflex]

We're such a me, me, me society now that it's getting pretty hard. You'll find all sorts of people answering this with their youthful "it's not in peoples nature" replies. What they are really saying is it's hard for them to imagine feeling as much for somebody else, as they do for themselves. I can't tear him away from the video games, or TV and he can't get me to stop buying shoes and makeup.

And reading this people will start to answer " you're wrong I did everything for that SOB..." and that's the same thing, thinking you could mold somebody into YOUR perfect partner,or MAKE them grateful enough, instead of patiently finding one that's everything you want right off the bat.

It's a balancing act to be sure, but not one I'm giving up hope on finding EVENTUALLY.

[MooksterL1]

Originally Posted by stan4

Because I don't really believe there is one right person for any other person and that different times of your lives come with different needs. People in relationships also change and then do not fit together as well.

I agree with this as well, especially when we get into a relationship or marry young.
As for monogamy in general, I fully expect my SO to be faithful to me, but it isn't the only requirement. I've noticed that too many times people say "Well, I've never cheated so what's the problem." It becomes the get out of jail free card sometimes. There are much much worse things in relationships than someone cheating.