More drama in my life (wife, husband, young, separated)

[Mr.Cat]

As you already know I hate my mother in law (yes, it went from not liking her to HATING her), and she called my wife yesterday. She told my wife that she was getting a divorce from her husband of 17 years because a common friend of her convinced her husband that she was a nutcase.
So, as the conversation went on and I am trying to eavesdrop (but I couldn't overcome my feline curiosity) I was having a bite of P & B sandwich when I heard my wife say that if she didn't have a place to go she was welcome in our house and I almost choked to death.
My wife also told her that she would be welcomed under the condition that her sister (my sister in law) WILL NOT be calling our house.
So, the wife was braking down the details of the split up and I stopped her cold, I didn't want to know the details, the less I know the better I am off. The MIL said se will call the wife and let her know. I feel like calling her husband and give him a "high five" over the phone for getting rid of her. End of rant!

[ellie]

Oh boy, Mr. Cat, between your neighbor hitting on your wife and the impending doom of the MIL moving in, I can understand why you're online so much.

BUT -- (big but)--I don't understand how you have so much time on your hands with the new baby, a couple of young kids, and a job. Maybe you should spend more time talking to your wife about these issues before the whole house collapses around your ears.

[Mr.Cat]

Originally Posted by ellie

Oh boy, Mr. Cat, between your neighbor hitting on your wife and the impending doom of the MIL moving in, I can understand why you're online so much.

BUT -- (big but)--I don't understand how you have so much time on your hands with the new baby, a couple of young kids, and a job. Maybe you should spend more time talking to your wife about these issues before the whole house collapses around your ears.

Where there's a will there's a way. We did some talking this weekend, when everyone was asleep. That's our relaxing time, late at night.

[miu]

Doesn't your wife know how much you dislike/hate her mother? I have to say that I'm really surprised that she offered her your house as a place to stay, unless she knows that her mom would never take her up on it. But still... I feel that you should be consulted before making an offer like that.

[christina0001]

ditto miu.
You might be better off calling the husband and encouraging him to work things out. lol

[Mr.Cat]

Originally Posted by miu

Doesn't your wife know how much you dislike/hate her mother? I have to say that I'm really surprised that she offered her your house as a place to stay, unless she knows that her mom would never take her up on it. But still... I feel that you should be consulted before making an offer like that.

You're right. I asked the wife why she didn't consult me and she said exactly that, she will never show up. But there's always the "what if".

[mrstewart]

Originally Posted by Mr.Cat

You're right. I asked the wife why she didn't consult me and she said exactly that, she will never show up. But there's always the "what if".

Hahaha!!! Yep, I'd call your FIL and beg him to take her back because I made the "offer" for my mother to come here about 6 years ago and I did not think she would actually come because we have a very tumultuous past. Well, sure enough, 4 weeks after the mention of staying at my home while she was separated, she showed up!

[miu]

Originally Posted by Mr.Cat

You're right. I asked the wife why she didn't consult me and she said exactly that, she will never show up. But there's always the "what if".

LOL!! So true.

[cpg35223]

Well, you can't just tell your wife, "Hell no, your mother isn't living here."

However, it's reasonable to say, "Well, I'm more than happy to be supportive. How long do you think it'll take her to get back on her feet?" Then diplomatically suggest that an indefinite stay is just out of the question.

As far as the rest of the drama is concerned, it sounds as if you really need to start anticipating trouble rather than being surprised by it. I had a receptionist like this. She always had drama in her life--yet almost all of it was the by-product of Ella's bad decisions. She just never saw the connection between one and the other.

[artsyguy]

Cat should spend more quality time with his kids.