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Location: Pittsburgh but I'm ready to relocate......
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I'm a 32 years old black man and I'm morbidly shy. First I want to note that I'm a decent looking guy.(or so I've been told) I look real young for my age(Been told I look 17/18)I've had 3 relationships in my lifetime. The problem that I find is when it comes to talking to women. I mean once I'm atleast dating the woman I'm fine....I'm not so shy.But Its the initial approach. I've had this problem since I was 12/13. I've missed many a proms/dances over my shyness.I didn't even go to my prom. Its like I'm afraid to be rejected. With my friends I'm like really sociable and friendly. I just find it hard to approach a woman for me. I've always had somebody hook me up or either I was the one approached. Its just the weirdest thing,I get butterflies and all nervous. The funny thing is is I've had several women who were strictly platonic friends and I wasn't shy but I'm morbidly shy when I approach a women I'm interested in. Help.....anyone
I'm a 32 years old black man and I'm morbidly shy. First I want to note that I'm a decent looking guy.(or so I've been told) I look real young for my age(Been told I look 17/18)I've had 3 relationships in my lifetime. The problem that I find is when it comes to talking to women. I mean once I'm atleast dating the woman I'm fine....I'm not so shy.But Its the initial approach. I've had this problem since I was 12/13. I've missed many a proms/dances over my shyness.I didn't even go to my prom. Its like I'm afraid to be rejected. With my friends I'm like really sociable and friendly. I just find it hard to approach a woman for me. I've always had somebody hook me up or either I was the one approached. Its just the weirdest thing,I get butterflies and all nervous. The funny thing is is I've had several women who were strictly platonic friends and I wasn't shy but I'm morbidly shy when I approach a women I'm interested in. Help.....anyone
Read: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie...a great classic...
I never meet a stranger. I get it from my dad. I am a people person & can strike up a conversation with a stranger anywhere. I have never been shy so I dont know what to tell you except look people in the eye & smile wherever you are and say hello in passing. People respond to it.
Hi, just wanted to write and tell you that you are definitely not alone! I have had the same exact problem, which is not a problem anymore because I'm female and my loving man was extremely persistent while we were in high school..we both turn 40 this winter ...but we have broken up many times in or youth and I experienced,well, a whole lotta nothing because if I found someone attractive, with that chemistry, my outgoing self turned suddenly into a wall flower, not one word would I speak, and I would even avoid eye contact,lol...it was so awful! I think it would be even more horrible if I was a man, because there aren't a whole lot of women who are very assertive about flirting, some are good at it, and I envy them, but it seems so rediculously funny to me, I could never do it, instead I'm sure I have come across as cold,lol. Anyway, I had a seven year marriage during a longggggggg break up from my sweety, to a very nice guy who has the same trouble, maybe even worse. It was funny in the beginning because we were not getting anywhere for months though we spent enormous time togeher and I suspected he liked me romantically, he just never would ask me out, so I mustered the courage, some how, and and that was that. But, I clicked with him because I liked that he was reserved?, like me. There are women out there just like you and I think if you searched personals online you might find one just like you, and typing is so much easier to get a feel for someone without being in that uncomfortable situation face-to-face. Good luck and thanks for not being one of those grab-ass guys who really come off as so arrogant to many women, it's refreshing and we like it!
Maybe you can meet a special gal online, get to know her well, then meet in person. The first time I did that, I got to know a very special lady better than I'd ever known anyone, all through emails. Still, when we finally met I was nervous as hell. We checked into a room, hugged, and then... silence.
"Nervous?"
"Yeah," I replied.
"Best way to overcome that is to get naked."
The rest is history. We were married a year later.
But seriously, you just need to get out there and just talk to them. I know some women are coceited, stuck up and think thy're God's gift to men but not all of them. The more intimidating they look the easier they are to establish a conversation. Go ahead.
Location: Pittsburgh but I'm ready to relocate......
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