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Old 12-06-2008, 12:54 AM
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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In my opinion, you need differences and similarities, my girlfriend and I are almost the same person, yet we also are very different people. I think it is a matter of finding similarities/differences the build off of each other rather than hurt each other.

For example, we are both very deep people, and can speak for countless hours about each other and and are both very open with each other about everything, we are both quite intense. On the other hand we have a bit different views on things like politics and certain hobbies.
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Old 12-07-2008, 07:51 PM
Location: TwilightZone
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I think opposite is way worse because your constantly going back and forth on every little thing...ugh
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Old 12-08-2008, 07:34 AM
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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I have been with someone the complete opposite and someone just like me and find issues with both LOL I just think that I'm very hard on those I date and expect a great deal - now that was early on in my dating life and many moons ago. I have since grown up and realize that if you are happy with yourself, you can be happy with almost anyone. My fiance isn't just like me but he's not the complete opposite either. I think it's a pretty good balance of the two sides.
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Old 12-08-2008, 09:13 AM
Location: Wyoming
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The headline is "Compatible Personalities", and to me that doesn't mean you must have similar personalities, just compatible ones. My wife and I are worlds apart in most outward ways -- looks, age, upbringing, religious and political beliefs, etc., but we're still compatible. Sometimes opposites are compatible, sometimes they're not.
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Old 12-08-2008, 11:20 AM
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I agree. Opposites don't really stay attracted to each other for too long.

Originally Posted by wanneroo View Post
Statistics show that people in relationships that are alike one another stay together longer and are happier.
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Old 12-08-2008, 11:26 AM
Location: Austin
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My husband is very passive and I'm aggressive. I think we balance eachother well. He calms me and I try to make him see when he needs to be more passionate about things. We are pretty opposite and have been together 8 years. I'm not saying it's always easy but I think it works well for us.
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