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Old 12-06-2008, 12:22 PM
 
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Man do I love it, but sometimes it can get you! I think I've got a little bit of a problem, or something. But here:

There is a girl in my grade that gets my eye and mind. She is a very popular, beautiful, street smart cheerleader. In my mind, everything I could want.

Ms. Cheerleader is not your average cheerleader (like you see in Bring it On, or something), so I think, she isn't a meangirl too my knowledge. I get the vibe that she is very different than all her friends and is MUCH smarter and knows what she wants to do with her life and her priorities. Most of her friends are cough-slutty-cough and most of her guy friends are a-hole football jockies and liars that don't give a ratspoop about anything. Since last year her and I haven't talked one bit about anything personal (I'm not good at small talk) but she sometimes she wants me to walk her to classes, stay with her at her locker, go get food with her, yadda yadda. A while ago last year she invited me over for a movie night with her and and her best friend, who is a good girl friend of mine (not girlfriend girlfriend). I want to start talking to her a lot and get to know her a lot more than I do, but I think I am too shy to do so, I don't want to find out she isn't interested in me, or I don't want to find out that she isn't as good as I think she is.

Yesterday in lunch she asked me to sit with her (us two alone) and I just sat there like an idiot and didn't say anything. I don't think more than ten words came out of my mouth that whole time, and this is usually how it is with her... But when I am with other girls I am constantly making them laugh, flirting, having a great time. I don't act differently around her than those other girls.. its just that I CANT act, you know?

What I feel like I need is advice on EDIT [is if I need to] to leave this girl alone and just try to ignore my feelings towards her, how to overcome this silly shyness of mine, and what just what to do in general.

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Old 12-06-2008, 03:13 PM
 
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I wish I were back in high school, but with the knowledge I possess now.
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Old 12-06-2008, 03:23 PM
 
Location: SXSW
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Mr. Cat you make me laugh!

OP, I think you should find opportunities to hang with her more. Eventually, you'll get accustomed to her and you can be your normal funny self. I would also try to hang in group settings at first so there's not so much pressure. Personally, I think it's a good sign that she wanted you to sit with her at lunch. Good luck!!
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Old 12-06-2008, 03:53 PM
 
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Mr. Cat you make me laugh!

OP, I think you should find opportunities to hang with her more. Eventually, you'll get accustomed to her and you can be your normal funny self. I would also try to hang in group settings at first so there's not so much pressure. Personally, I think it's a good sign that she wanted you to sit with her at lunch. Good luck!!

Man you know I wish I could! Unfortunately she is always at parties with the jocks and whatnot, and I never know about them, and I'm afraid to ask them because inviting myself would be rude... I'm not very friendly with the majority of the 'popular click' either, though there are a few people that I am good friends with that are in that click (Ms. Cheerleader's cousin).

Even if I went there, I don't like being around those people because they are all tools, save 1 or 2 of them. And I feel dumber whenever I talk to them. Since I'm not good friends with any of them, I'd be the kid in the corner the whole time. I went to once before and it was the more boring than math class.
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Old 12-06-2008, 04:05 PM
 
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I would def hit on my photography teacher, damn she was fine!!
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Old 12-06-2008, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Great Plains
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Dude be confident. Get of the shyness. Be confident and not cocky.
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Old 12-06-2008, 04:16 PM
 
Location: Austin
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She wants you to walk her to class, she wants to sit with you at lunch, she keeps you at her locker with her....dude, how many more signs do you need besides her just flat out telling you she likes you? Ask her on a date. Maybe a movie since you have a hard times with words around her right now.
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Old 12-06-2008, 05:29 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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Man do I love it, but sometimes it can get you! I think I've got a little bit of a problem, or something. But here:

There is a girl in my grade that gets my eye and mind. She is a very popular, beautiful, street smart cheerleader. In my mind, everything I could want.

Ms. Cheerleader is not your average cheerleader (like you see in Bring it On, or something), so I think, she isn't a meangirl too my knowledge. I get the vibe that she is very different than all her friends and is MUCH smarter and knows what she wants to do with her life and her priorities. Most of her friends are cough-slutty-cough and most of her guy friends are a-hole football jockies and liars that don't give a ratspoop about anything. Since last year her and I haven't talked one bit about anything personal (I'm not good at small talk) but she sometimes she wants me to walk her to classes, stay with her at her locker, go get food with her, yadda yadda. A while ago last year she invited me over for a movie night with her and and her best friend, who is a good girl friend of mine (not girlfriend girlfriend). I want to start talking to her a lot and get to know her a lot more than I do, but I think I am too shy to do so, I don't want to find out she isn't interested in me, or I don't want to find out that she isn't as good as I think she is.

Yesterday in lunch she asked me to sit with her (us two alone) and I just sat there like an idiot and didn't say anything. I don't think more than ten words came out of my mouth that whole time, and this is usually how it is with her... But when I am with other girls I am constantly making them laugh, flirting, having a great time. I don't act differently around her than those other girls.. its just that I CANT act, you know?

What I feel like I need is advice on EDIT [is if I need to] to leave this girl alone and just try to ignore my feelings towards her, how to overcome this silly shyness of mine, and what just what to do in general.
awwww...how sweet are you. Don't be intimidated....just because she's a cheerleader doesn't mean she isn't a real human being with real feelings and needs....I know you know this, but you just need to treat her like it. Have confidence, girls love that.
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Old 12-06-2008, 05:32 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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Man you know I wish I could! Unfortunately she is always at parties with the jocks and whatnot, and I never know about them, and I'm afraid to ask them because inviting myself would be rude... I'm not very friendly with the majority of the 'popular click' either, though there are a few people that I am good friends with that are in that click (Ms. Cheerleader's cousin).

Even if I went there, I don't like being around those people because they are all tools, save 1 or 2 of them. And I feel dumber whenever I talk to them. Since I'm not good friends with any of them, I'd be the kid in the corner the whole time. I went to once before and it was the more boring than math class.
I hear ya....and, for me, heinsight is 20/20. I was on cheer and dance throughout my 4 years of HS and trust me, we hang out with the jocks mostly through default. I met a guy, non jock, non "popular" click, non jerk lol, when I was a junior and ended up married to him . Just be confident and ask her out.....sounds like she really does like you.
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Old 12-06-2008, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Miami, FL
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Give her some alcohol.
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