Is the 30's a good age for dating??? (married, woman, singles)

[averagejoe76]

The 20's would be the best time for dating and IMO the 40's..
Probably not so good.Where do the 30s fit in?
Some people wait until early 30's to marry and have children but..
How common is it?

[Mr.Cat]

Dating is good at any age.

[HookTheBrotherUp]

I'd say anytime is good for dating, however, the 20s should be for having fun, then the 30s should be for finding a mate and planning for the future, maybe a family, and hopefully by the 40s, one is established in his/her career, retirement plans, etc.

[cpg35223]

It's better for a guy than a woman. By the time a woman is in her 30s, there is some urgency about the entire thing, particularly if she wants to have kids. Meanwhile, a guy typically has worked most of the stupidity out of his system, established himself in his career, and has become a more interesting person.

[sportsfangal]

I'm in my 30's and having a tough time dating and finding the guys that actually want relationships. Seems most of the ones I encounter want only sex or stop calling after 2 dates.

[amanda0808]

I'm in my early 30s but I don't feel any urgency about marriage. I think dating is great at any age.

[andreaspercheron]

I agree with Mr. Cat. I have been single in my 20's and 30's (different times) and by far, when I was single in my 30's was the better time. You know yourself a lot better, a lot of your "issues" (should be) worked out by then and your confidence is better at this age. I think dating in your 30's is a lot of fun and it should be!

[averagejoe76]

I wouldnt say my confidence is better today than early-mid 20's however..
I wont tolerate or put up with alot of the stuff in relationships that i did in my 20s.

[Oildog]

Originally Posted by HookTheBrotherUp

I'd say anytime is good for dating, however, the 20s should be for having fun, then the 30s should be for finding a mate and planning for the future, maybe a family, and hopefully by the 40s, one is established in his/her career, retirement plans, etc.

Agree with post. Most people are still establishing themselves in their 20s.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by sportsfangal

I'm in my 30's and having a tough time dating and finding the guys that actually want relationships. Seems most of the ones I encounter want only sex or stop calling after 2 dates.

Not all of us are like that. I'm in my 30s and I definitely want something more meaningful.

As for the original question, I think dating in your 30s has its good and bad points. On the plus side, you have a better idea of who you are and what you're looking for, you're probably done with school and settled in your career, maybe own your own home, and hopefully have your student loans paid off. You're a lot wiser and better at spotting the red flags in people. On the minus side, it's harder to meet quality singles. A lot of people are already married or with someone. You also have to be more flexible about who you'll date. Assuming you're dating people in your age range, many of the people you meet may be divorced and/or have kids. When I was in my 20s, I wouldn't have dated someone who had been married previously or who had kids. But as I've gotten older, I've become more open-minded about certain things. Appearance is definitely one of them. People in their 20s can be pretty shallow and hold others to really high standards. But someone in their 30s can't be held to that same standard. They may have had kids, they may work long hours, etc. Life does take a toll on the body and as hard as many of us try, few of us can look the way we did when we were younger.

In general, I think dating is only as hard as you make it. If you're in your 30s and you're holding out for a 30something single who's never been married, doesn't have kids, and has the body of a 22 year old, you'll find the pool is pretty small. You have to make certain concessions. Some people will read that as lowering your standards. I don't see it that way. I think it just means coming back down to Earth and being a realist.