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Old 12-11-2008, 02:55 PM
 
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Here is my on going problem, my husband is super sweet and is affectionate all the time except he has a BIG porn addiction and he is only interested in sex with me once a week- if Im lucky. I challenged him to have sex with me everyday for a month and he said that is mentally unstable to ask! I have always been cute and guys love to flirt with me and I keep in shape, so what is the deal, is my marriage over?
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Old 12-11-2008, 02:57 PM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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Think yourself lucky. I don't even have a husband to do ladies and gentlemen with once a month , nevermind once a week.

Just kidding....I'm the wrong person to give marital advice.
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Southern Arizona
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Here is my on going problem, my husband is super sweet and is affectionate all the time except he has a BIG porn addiction and he is only interested in sex with me once a week- if Im lucky. I challenged him to have sex with me everyday for a month and he said that is mentally unstable to ask! I have always been cute and guys love to flirt with me and I keep in shape, so what is the deal, is my marriage over?
I will never understand a man that is more interested in watching it than participating in it. I think he needs to talk to someone about his addiction, and get help in overcoming it, then he might be better able to relate to you in a sexual way. JMHO
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Do you need a new husband?
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:06 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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Here is my on going problem, my husband is super sweet and is affectionate all the time except he has a BIG porn addiction and he is only interested in sex with me once a week- if Im lucky. I challenged him to have sex with me everyday for a month and he said that is mentally unstable to ask! I have always been cute and guys love to flirt with me and I keep in shape, so what is the deal, is my marriage over?
Everybody has different needs and different interests in sex. For your husband once a week may be plenty. For you - obviously not. As for his interest in porn, it's a guy thing. It has nothing to do with you.

You don't say how long you have been married, but if it is more than four or five years, I would say that once a week is pretty average in the grand scheme of things. If you are unhappy with that perhaps you should sit down with him and talk - not CHALLENGE him to anything, just talk about what would make you happier and what his thoughts are about it.

Communication is the key.

20yrsinBranson
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:08 PM
 
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I think he's cheating

*runs out of thread*
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I think we should trade husbands because mine is always after me and I'm running around with this expression on my face: trying to get away and not be molested.
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:16 PM
 
Location: Vancouver, WA
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When two people are together for a while, things turn stale. You may be turning strangers heads, but your hubby is bored. That's why he watches porn. It's new and different, even if it is on screen.

Blow his mind by sitting down and watching a porn or two with him. It may give you an idea as to what gets his juices flowing. Then play out those things with him and see if that helps.
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:20 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Once and a week and that's bad?
You're kind of on the lucky end compared to some stats I've heard...
A lot of Americans don't have all that great of a sex life.

365 Nights of Sex: Can It Strengthen a Marriage?

There's always a vibrator....another person to take care of your needs...sucking it up...talking to your husband more and making him understand where you're coming from.
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Old 12-11-2008, 03:20 PM
 
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Yes, one who love to have sex all the time and let me bake for him and massage him. ( I am a trained massage therapist) Do you know anyone who is willing to give that a go? :P
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