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Old 12-15-2008, 02:17 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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if you've already had sex, it isn't casual. He'll try to pull that on you though, so be prepared.



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i think you are right. just don't know how to bring it up and where to start since we are still in the very cacual stage. i don't want to look needy or desperate. but it's been almost 5 months and still being ' cacual', maybbe i should get a hint and move on?
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Old 12-15-2008, 02:36 PM
 
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i think you are right. just don't know how to bring it up and where to start since we are still in the very cacual stage. i don't want to look needy or desperate. but it's been almost 5 months and still being ' cacual', maybbe i should get a hint and move on?
If you're sleeping with him, you're really not in a casual relationship unless it's just casual sex. You should be able to discuss things with him if you're having sex with him.
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Old 12-15-2008, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Personally, I don't want anybody holding my hand at a party. I want to be free to mingle, work the room and do my thing. I don't need some man babysitting me like I'm his chattel and I'm about to get away. Who would want that?!!!
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Old 12-15-2008, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan and Sometimes Orange County CA
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I think different people are different. Even after 20 years my wife and I often hold hands when we are driving the car. We are alsmot always arm in arm or holding hands, but that is becuase her fmaily was very touchy feely. (Mine was the opposite. I had to adjust to it). Maybe he is just unaccostumed to touching. It is uncofmrable at first if you are form a family that nevr touches.
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Old 12-15-2008, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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I don't normally hold hands at parties. If my wife were to reach for my hand, I'd hold hers, but we go to a party more to visit with others than to hold hands. Besides that, I can't talk without using my hands!

Before we were married I always introduced her as, "this is (name)." I didn't figure I needed to add, "my girlfriend." She was more than that, but not yet "fiancee". Apparently it bothered her... so I asked her to marry me.

I still introduce her the same way.
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Old 12-15-2008, 07:21 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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She was more than that, but not yet "fiancee". Apparently it bothered her... so I asked her to marry me.

I still introduce her the same way.
Great! And it doesn't bother her now...?
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Old 12-15-2008, 07:26 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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I agree, definitely a company party is a time to stay professional and business-like. It's not the time to act like teenage love-birds.
I also agree. Plus you're not his girlfriend or fiance, your just a women he hangs out with.

I'm not into hand holding with my guys. Once in a while if we're being really romantic, but I like my independence and being able to use both of my hands if needed.
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Old 12-15-2008, 08:08 PM
 
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I think different people are different. Even after 20 years my wife and I often hold hands when we are driving the car. We are alsmot always arm in arm or holding hands, but that is becuase her fmaily was very touchy feely. (Mine was the opposite. I had to adjust to it). Maybe he is just unaccostumed to touching. It is uncofmrable at first if you are form a family that nevr touches.
that's so sweet. i think in my case, the guy just wanted to show that' oh she's just a date....theere's nothing more'
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Old 12-16-2008, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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I agree, definitely a company party is a time to stay professional and business-like. It's not the time to act like teenage love-birds.
Then why call it a "party?"
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Old 12-16-2008, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Then why call it a "party?"
What do you want them to call it - The Most Resented Meeting of the Year?!
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