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Old 12-16-2008, 01:50 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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what about in a romantic setting? any trouble spots for you?


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Nope. I'm talking about the clap on the shoulder, as in "Way to win the Simmon's account, Roberts!" Something out of Man In The Gray Flannel Suit. All this touchy-feeley crap just annoys the hell out of me.

 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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you mean like the NBA hug? they do a lot of that.



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Oh yes. I prefer that too. The clap on the shoulder or the masculine handshake. That is how my dad taught me. He is very masculine guy; however, I've seen a lot of the hand hold, pull in, and a pat and then the guys will hold each other for a few seconds. Never liked that. Very strange.
 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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Other than by my wife or my children, I do not much like to be touched at all. My wife's family is very huggy and touchy - it took some getting used to. Even when our minster gently pinches my shoulder or pats my back, I flinch initially. I do not think that I could stand a massage by a stranger. Maybe I would get comfortable with it after a while, but at first it woudl be awful.

I guess it is becuase our family never touched each other much (except maybe with a fist) when we were growing up.

It was really strange to me when I first met my wifes parents and they came running up and hugged me (we had been dating all of three weeks). I could not help but flinch.

Now after 20 years of endless hugging, I enjoy it with people that I have a comfort level, but I still flinch at times whenver a stranger touches me. I am ok with shaking hands, but more intimate contact with strangers always stirs an initial negative reaction for me. If someone sits next to me on an airplane or bus and touches me, I always move a tiny bit away (yes CPG, even if it is a hottie). I know that it may be taken as rude, but it makes me uncomfortable. I think that Italy would be miserable for me.

It is really sad. THe first time that I hugged my mother that i can remember I think that I was over 30. I am determined not to raise my children that way.

Funny thing is our family is very touchy and huggy. We often lie in a big pile on the parlor floor everyone resting on someone else and watch Television. Within our family we are very comfortable touching. Outside of it, nto so much for me anyway. Hopefully the kids do not have this problem. My wife certainly does not, she hugs everyone.
 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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yowza! I can imagine. when guys try to kiss or lick my ears or neck, it makes me shudder! In a bad way!



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Yup! Even a light touch there can send me into tears! It sucks!
 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Stomach
 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:56 PM
 
Location: Incognito
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My butt is off limits and so is my belly button. Everywhere else is fine.
 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:56 PM
 
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Yes the NBA hug. lol. What is the deal with that yo ...

http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2004/...b__430x348.jpg

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you mean like the NBA hug? they do a lot of that.
 
Old 12-16-2008, 01:57 PM
 
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So a random gay guy is free to touch your hog?

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My butt is off limits and so is my belly button. Everywhere else is fine.
 
Old 12-16-2008, 02:01 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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well, I think it's the new way to "manly hug". I think it's kind of cute. Like, "I'm not gay, just showing some love to my heterosexual friend here"
It's like 2 guys who can't sit next to each other at the movies!



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Yes the NBA hug. lol. What is the deal with that yo ...

http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2004/...b__430x348.jpg
 
Old 12-16-2008, 02:02 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!
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