What if the sex is lousy? (gays, never, women, partner)

[Oildog]

I try to have open communication about likes and dislikes. If she has a lot of hang-ups, or doesn't 'try' shes gone.

[crbcrbrgv]

Originally Posted by sportsfangal

true, that can go both ways. An ex-gf of mine stayed with this married man who treated her like dirt because she told me he had a huge **** and the sex was so great.
well, sorry but there's more to life than a huge ****, being with a married man, and being with anyone who treated you badly.
I felt so sorry for her, she would never stop crying and complaining about how much she loved him and blah blah blah, I got sick of hearing about it and never contacted her again.

A women who puts that much emphasis on a huge **** is exactly the kind of lady who gets treated like dirt by a man. There is no reason to feel sorry for a woman like that.

Now that's not to say there is anything wrong with preferring or wanting a huge ****. But putting up with being treated like dirt? That's just plain stupid.

I think size is almost never the issue when it comes to bad sex. Even if a guy and lady are incompatible initially due to size (whether it be too big or too small) you can work around it with kegels, changing positions, extra lube etc. Really huge and really tiny are rare just as very, ahem "roomy" and very tight are rare. You can work around the piece not fitting the puzzle. If you are having bad sex, it's almost always due to psychological reasons. Psychological issues between couples are hard enough to work out outside of the bedroom, so why would they be any easier to work out when they involve the bedroom? Probably best to call it off.

[AMARIE23]

you can always show eachother what you like and stuff.. it would be fun..
but if it doesnt improve, then bail

[Hawk J]

Both partners should be proficiently versed in the art of cunnilingus/fellacio.................................... .........................hohohoho

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by sportsfangal

right, it does become impossible eventually I suppose, but why have a lifetime of bad sex?
not having screaming orgasms aren't worth losing a partner, but a partner who isn't willing to work on the relationship or value the other's needs, that's when you may have to re-evaluate if it's worth it.
Having terrific sex with a partner who treats you badly, isn't worth it either.

There is a difference between having a partner who is bad in bed and someone who is unwilling to work on a relationship.

Personally I don't consider sex a relationship. It's just a part of it.

Again, we're back to the definition of good and bad sex.

[Lucario]

Lousy sex?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Sunil's Dad

Lousy sex?

Ha-ha, I'm not surprised you're puzzled, Sunil's! It appears that most men are OK with anything that breathes and hopefully moves a lil'... It's good to have low standards...

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Ha-ha, I'm not surprised you're puzzled, Sunil's! It appears that most men are OK with anything that breathes and hopefully moves a lil'... It's good to have low standards...

Low standards have saved me many, many times throughout the years........Like I said before, I like my ladies with a pulse.............

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by LiveTodayLez08

This is sort of a spin off the, "How long can you go without sex" thread.

If the sex sucks, would you bail?

Hmmm. I think sex is one of those things that can ALWAYS be good. Just takes a little "want to" on the part of the partners.

Nope. I'd not bail for that.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Sunil's Dad

Lousy sex?

My thoughts exactly!!