Cheating? (woman, kid, college, advice)

[cpg35223]

I'm sorry. Cheating somebody because they bore you now isn't a valid reason. Just divorce the guy and move on.

[Driller1]

Originally Posted by moonpieheaven

The question is... WHAT causes people to cheat??

Besides just being a horny toad... are there justifiable reasons?

It was along way from just being horny with me. The man valuated my skills as a driller. Hubby always makes cracks about me playing games in the mud. I make (clear) in the high six figures working seven months a year. I just found someone to play with.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Driller1

It was along way from just being horny with me. The man valuated my skills as a driller. Hubby always makes cracks about me playing games in the mud. I make (clear) in the high six figures working seven months a year. I just found someone to play with.

Look, I know you're in that euphoric state that comes after bedding somebody new, but do you, your lover, and your husband a favor and end the marriage. It's obviously dead, you have no qualms about betraying his trust all because he makes a few cracks about your business, and you waste inordinate amounts of mental energy sneaking around behind his back. The honest thing to do here would be to walk in and say, "This marriage does not work anymore. I want a divorce," and then make it a clean break.

[Driller1]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Look, I know you're in that euphoric state that comes after bedding somebody new, but do you, your lover, and your husband a favor and end the marriage. It's obviously dead, you have no qualms about betraying his trust all because he makes a few cracks about your business, and you waste inordinate amounts of mental energy sneaking around behind his back. The honest thing to do here would be to walk in and say, "This marriage does not work anymore. I want a divorce," and then make it a clean break.

I am stuffing saftey deposit boxes with money now. It's coming.

[chance2jump]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Look, I know you're in that euphoric state that comes after bedding somebody new, but do you, your lover, and your husband a favor and end the marriage. It's obviously dead, you have no qualms about betraying his trust all because he makes a few cracks about your business, and you waste inordinate amounts of mental energy sneaking around behind his back. The honest thing to do here would be to walk in and say, "This marriage does not work anymore. I want a divorce," and then make it a clean break.

Unfortunately, there is no such thing as a "clean" break. Not saying that bad behavior is justified, just saying that sometimes circumstances don't allow for things to work out right away.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Driller1

I am stuff saftey deposit boxes with money now. It's coming.

Hahaha. You're kidding yourself.

You really think that's going to stop a good divorce attorney? That hide-the-money trick just doesn't work, particularly if your business is as successful as you claim. All they have to do is look at your business records, your tax filings, and conduct the financial equivalent of a full body cavity search. And if the judge even suspects that you're hiding money, woe be unto you, for you'll be on the receiving end of a really brutal judgment. Trust me, I've known marriages where the guy tried to siphon money off into an "escape fund." That feeble little smokescreen lasts, oh, about 48 hours. One, a prominent local attorney (who should know better) is now living in a one-bedroom apartment, all because he tried to get cute with the money.

Nope. The smart thing to do is recognize that there's going to be pain, and simply negotiate the best possible settlement. Otherwise you're going to get drilled yourself.

And, quite frankly, do you really think that's the ethical thing to do?

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by chance2jump

Unfortunately, there is no such thing as a "clean" break. Not saying that bad behavior is justified, just saying that sometimes circumstances don't allow for things to work out right away.

You're right. But "clean break" is a relative term, and sure beats a messy divorce complete with incriminating photos and the lover having to testify at a divorce trial.

[DennyCrane]

I've never cheated and never will.

I would never forgive someone who did.

I could never respect someone who did cheat or someone who forgave a cheater.

There's absolutely no excuse for such behavior.

[Driller1]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Hahaha. You're kidding yourself.

You really think that's going to stop a good divorce attorney? That hide-the-money trick just doesn't work, particularly if your business is as successful as you claim. All they have to do is look at your business records, your tax filings, and conduct the financial equivalent of a full body cavity search. And if the judge even suspects that you're hiding money, woe be unto you, for you'll be on the receiving end of a really brutal judgment. Trust me, I've known marriages where the guy tried to siphon money off into an "escape fund." That feeble little smokescreen lasts, oh, about 48 hours. One, a prominent local attorney (who should know better) is now living in a one-bedroom apartment, all because he tried to get cute with the money.

Nope. The smart thing to do is recognize that there's going to be pain, and simply negotiate the best possible settlement. Otherwise you're going to get drilled yourself.

And, quite frankly, do you really think that's the ethical thing to do?

He has more than me. That is not the point. He says I do not make enough to bother with. So we won't.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Driller1

He has more than me. That is not the point. He says I do not make enough to bother with. So we won't.

Again, you're kidding yourself. When the marriage is dead and money's to be had, he will cut through your assets like a hot knife through butter. Just cross your fingers and pray that he hasn't already found out about your assignations. Surely you weren't dumb enough to use your mobile phone or credit cards were you?