For men 40 years old and older: How have you changed? (date, wife)
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I'm more cynical, bald, heavier, slightly smarter (less dumb?) most of my joints hurt (from years of abuse) and I'm just as poor as I ever was. I'm probably a better person now, I do community work and donate more money to charities than I used to.
Ohhh I wish I could have my twenty year old body with my 44 year old mind. I'm so much calmer and have so much more on the ball now than I did when I was young. Years of turning wrenches, rank horses, and motorcycles have taken a toll. Emotionally I'm way better off now, but I do miss the days of not having it hurt to get out of bed in the morning
I dont feel old, just not like I did in my 20s. The recovery from workouts/activities is a little longer. When its cold out, I feel it in the knees and hands a bit more.
Also agree with poster about marriage since my mid 30s. Not a big deal. If the right one comes along its cool, but I really stopped looking.
I think I'm a better person. I know that I was certainly better in my LATE 20s than in my EARLY 20s, that's for sure. Toward the end of college, I was extremely insecure. By the end of my 20s, I had already gone to grad school 2,000 miles from home, moved to the Southeastern U.S., bought a home and would drive across the U.S. by myself without flinching. At 23, the thought of all that would have made my palms sweat.
Now, I'm still in fairly good shape - 5'10" and high 180s lbs. (10 lbs. less than 6 months ago) but the gray is seeping in, though I have a full head of hair. I periodically buy the $ 7 goop (Grecian foam) to bring it back to dark brown.
Definitely smarter and can see through people EVEN MORE. Definitely don't give a rat's a$$ as to what they think of me. Much more apt to be confrontational if boundaries need to be reset. Am totally ok with being by myself and with myself. I think that so many marriages add havoc to the mix, rather than happiness. I too stopped looking. I definitely don't want kids and I'm even more adamant about having someone else's kids around. Demographics show that there are more single people around. I will pick my friends from that group.
Still, though I shouldn't complain, things have not tracked the way I had envisioned.
I have mellowed a great deal. I have probably become more accepting of things I can't change. I work harder. I am lot less susceptible to BS. At the same time, I enjoy people a great deal more, and have learned to really appreciate people whose views differ from my own. I think it's because I don't have to prove very much anymore.
Most importantly, I have learned to listen to my gut, which really is your collective experience speaking. As a result, I typically can spot trouble from a long, long way off now.
A lot more rich and a whole lot smarter. And it's harder to recover from a workout or an injury.
Also finally starting to look closer to my age. A couple of years ago I was talking to a lady about the '80s and she asked me what I could possibly know about the '80s. When I told her how old I was, she was in disbelief.
Yeah, I grew up in the 80's too. That was the best damn decade ever!
I'm 42 and the only thing that has changed is that I have less friends by choice and my temper has improved (no longer the hotheaded fool I once was)
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