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Old 12-19-2008, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Texas
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All you people who have truly wonderful relationships with your SO.. Please help. How do you help a person -man or woman- who is jaded against the opposite gender?

How do you help them? What would be your best advice? Are they doomed to suffer? Are they just on their own? trapped? If a man is jaded against women what would your advice be? If a woman is jaded against men what would your advice be?

 
Old 12-19-2008, 04:16 PM
 
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Jaded? Or maybe more realistic and able to spot the BS.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 04:33 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I've come to realize you really can't help with things like this b'c people don't really want advice, they just want to talk, blow off steam. They'll see things differently when and if they're ready. You can talk til you're blue in the face but it's only for your own benefit. That may sound cynical. Ok, maybe it is, I dunno. LOL
 
Old 12-19-2008, 04:43 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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People like that are usually trapped in the own repetitive thoughts and generally aren't open to listening.

They aren't "aware" how jaded they sound.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 04:46 PM
 
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Jaded people need someone to blame for their failures in relationships and to be angry at someone else gives them sense of justification.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I just go out looking for the nearest 'onstage' personality to hook up with. That's how I deal with most things.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 05:32 PM
 
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I just go out looking for the nearest 'onstage' personality to hook up with. That's how I deal with most things.
Or Mr.Hot Pants!!
 
Old 12-19-2008, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Or Mr.Hot Pants!!
Yeah, but he's not "onstage".

Ooooh wait!!! Actually he is! He does some Shakespeare plays at the McCallum Theater here in Palm Desert!!!

Gosh! Maybe I should find out when he's playing and try to get a backstage pass and act all surprised and sh*t when I see hinm. I could pretend that I didn't know he did community theater!

That's my new plan, I'm all over it like flies on picnic sandwiches!!!
 
Old 12-19-2008, 06:38 PM
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Location: At the lake house in sunny Florida
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All you people who have truly wonderful relationships with your SO.. Please help. How do you help a person -man or woman- who is jaded against the opposite gender?

How do you help them? What would be your best advice? Are they doomed to suffer? Are they just on their own? trapped? If a man is jaded against women what would your advice be? If a woman is jaded against men what would your advice be?
Are they jaded because they've been hurt? If that's the case it may be hard to get close to them. But if you can it takes patience and just being yourself. Keep doing and saying nice things. Sometimes you have to help the person build their self confidence up.

If that's not the case then I'm way off track.

Of course there are some you can never help. Some people like to live in misery.
 
Old 12-19-2008, 07:01 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Hey what about jaded people against their own sex? Women who can't stand other women mainly.
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