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Old 12-20-2008, 10:31 AM
 
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That was stupid and argumentitive.
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Old 12-20-2008, 10:44 AM
 
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Yesterday I was flipping through a Cosmo Magazine from the summer. I haven't read one of those magazines in at least 15 years. Anyway there was a story on "How To Snoop On Your Man". I was appalled that there was a 4 page article with tips on this.

I would never snoop on my SO. That's what trust is for in a relationship. I can understand it if you think your so is cheating but that's not what this article was about.

It was basically telling young women that it's ok to check his cell phone bill, wallet, camera memory stick, hamper, closet, freezer, mail, car, drawers, etc, etc. Call me old fashioned but I thought this was horrible.

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LOL

I don't know if I would call it horrible. If your wee-wee is going inside a body, I think its grounds to look at everything you have.

I go through all those things anyway just cleaning and organizing.

Maybe we are strange but we share emails and everything..I don't know..I like it that way. Only men that have something to hide hate snoops.
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Old 12-20-2008, 11:17 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I have to agree with most of the female posters on this one. Once you start suspecting, it's probably too late. Don't know what the solution would be other than finding a man who can trust himself enough not to cheat?
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Old 12-20-2008, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Yesterday I was flipping through a Cosmo Magazine from the summer. I haven't read one of those magazines in at least 15 years. Anyway there was a story on "How To Snoop On Your Man". I was appalled that there was a 4 page article with tips on this.

I would never snoop on my SO. That's what trust is for in a relationship. I can understand it if you think your so is cheating but that's not what this article was about.

It was basically telling young women that it's ok to check his cell phone bill, wallet, camera memory stick, hamper, closet, freezer, mail, car, drawers, etc, etc. Call me old fashioned but I thought this was horrible.

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There was once, a few years ago, an article in either Cosmo or Glamour which detailed some extreme snooping, including taking a CLASS on high tech spy stuff. I wrote into the magazine basically saying "If it's gotten to the point where you're paying a lot of money for classes and technology to snoop on your SO, isn't that a pretty good sign that the relationship is already beyond repair and you might as well just leave?" They didn't print my comments in the "your letters" section and I haven't really read those kind of magazines since.
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Old 12-20-2008, 11:37 AM
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Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Yesterday I was flipping through a Cosmo Magazine from the summer. I haven't read one of those magazines in at least 15 years. Anyway there was a story on "How To Snoop On Your Man". I was appalled that there was a 4 page article with tips on this.

I would never snoop on my SO. That's what trust is for in a relationship. I can understand it if you think your so is cheating but that's not what this article was about.

It was basically telling young women that it's ok to check his cell phone bill, wallet, camera memory stick, hamper, closet, freezer, mail, car, drawers, etc, etc. Call me old fashioned but I thought this was horrible.

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Yes. My thoughts are that if you have to go out of your way to snoop on somebody you are in a relationship with, then it's not a relationship worth having.
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Old 12-20-2008, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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Once you hit the snooping point, something has to give.

I disagree with cosmo being for tramps and troublemakers though.
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Old 12-20-2008, 12:05 PM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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It's something I would do once in a while or if I had good reason. I don't want to be the last to know or be made a fool of. Too many women are either too trusting or would rather not go there...you know "what the eyes don't see the heart don't know" way of thinking. Which is all good, but I like to be on top of things...pardon the pun.
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Old 12-20-2008, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Talk about setting your relationship up for failure.
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Old 12-20-2008, 02:15 PM
 
Location: somewhere south of Canada
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It's something I would do once in a while or if I had good reason. I don't want to be the last to know or be made a fool of. Too many women are either too trusting or would rather not go there...you know "what the eyes don't see the heart don't know" way of thinking. Which is all good, but I like to be on top of things...pardon the pun.
I agree.

I trusted my ex-fiance completely. I never had a reason to snoop and never did. However, if I had snooped, I may not have saved the relationship but I would have saved the $7,000 I spent on a wedding that never took place He was apparantly having doubts about us, and looking elsewhere for a few months before breaking up, all the while I was spending money on wedding stuff.
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Old 12-20-2008, 02:33 PM
 
Location: in love with life!
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Yeah I wonder if I would have known to end the relationship sooner if I had snooped, but I just can't bring myself to do it. When I've let a guy get to the level of SO, it is because I've decided to trust him and snooping is a sign of a lack of trust. But, like Tropical said, it would have saved a lot of $$$ I'd already shelled out on a wedding that is no more. But, I just can't bring myself to snoop it feels weird and invasive.
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