Baring It All: My Universal Call for an Extraordinary Woman (date, marriage)

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

The list could go on and on. Somewhere in the world, there's a woman who's humble, selfless, mature, attractive, intelligent, childless, bold, independent, loving, classy, confident, self-loving, well-respected, wise, decisive, open-minded, worldly, loved, spontaneous, funny, imperfect, driven, adventurous, caring, etc.

Ok, I reread it but, I'm sorry, I just don't see where you left any room in here for imperfection and reading between the lines, I'll bet most women you've dated sensed this. You seem very unrealistic. You want a Norman Rockwell painting, not a woman who's an individual.

You remind me of the type of guy who tries to gently--probably with a smile on his face and a brotherly peck on the forehead--ask his size 4 girlfriend/wife if she's putting on weight. Or insists on picking out her clothes for the evening when you're being seen with her in public. In other words, a controlling nature. If you really want to find someone you're compatible with you should seriously consider nipping that in the bud while you're so young.

[CESpeed]

Sorry can't rep you, but great insight.

[ronaldl79]

You're way off base here. I've never dated a 'size 4' woman before. I'm not interested in super models. I don't have time to 'control' anyone. I am always trying to encourage people and help them realize their full potential in life. I am not seeking perfection in anyone. I simply desire someone in my life at some point who cares about making a difference here on planet Earth and in the lives of others.

I don't know what you desire in a woman, but I know I deserve a woman with a heart who's also giving, compassionate, etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with these qualities -- And that's exactly what they are -- Qualities. I make no apologies for keeping good people in my life, because they make me a better person in the process. With the right woman, I know we'll make an incredible team who support and encourage each other, while expanding our horizons to do even more things in life.

Perhaps the tone of the message is too strong, but that's just my passion for life and good people speaking.

Originally Posted by Public_Newsense

Ok, I reread it but, I'm sorry, I just don't see where you left any room in here for imperfection and reading between the lines, I'll bet most women you've dated sensed this. You seem very unrealistic. You want a Norman Rockwell painting, not a woman who's an individual.

You remind me of the type of guy who tries to gently--probably with a smile on his face and a brotherly peck on the forehead--ask his size 4 girlfriend/wife if she's putting on weight. Or insists on picking out her clothes for the evening when you're being seen with her in public. In other words, a controlling nature. If you really want to find someone you're compatible with you should seriously consider nipping that in the bud while you're so young.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

I don't know what you desire in a woman

Huh? I don't! LOL That's ok. I'm used to it.

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

You're way off base here. I've never dated a 'size 4' woman before. I'm not interested in super models.

I knew you were going to say that. I was just saying that's the kind of guy you sound like, someone who has to point out every ounce a woman gains. Also, not all supermodels are small and not only supermodels are small.

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

I don't think there's anything wrong with these qualities -- And that's exactly what they are -- Qualities.

This is how it usually happens. You meet someone who snags your heart like a hook snags a fish--usually when you're least expecting it. Sounds cliche-ish, I know, but it earned it b'c it's often true. She's got several of the qualities you desire but you're so smitten with her you don't notice she doesn't have them all--or, you decide you can live without this or that one because she's such a great person. Do you think if there was such thing as the ultimate mate that the divorce rate would be a fraction as high as it it? Good luck in your quest. I mean that.

[Tropical Trouble]

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

The list could go on and on. Somewhere in the world, there's a woman who's humble, selfless, mature, attractive, intelligent, childless, bold, independent, loving, classy, confident, self-loving, well-respected, wise, decisive, open-minded, worldly, loved, spontaneous, funny, imperfect, driven, adventurous, caring, etc.

OK, just to play Devil's Advocate here, which of these qualities (other than childless and imperfect) do you think he should give up in order to widen the field of play?

Humble? She can be everything else, but arrogant.
Intelligent? How about dumb as a tree stump?
Loving? Nah, I'm sure he can find a caring, mature woman who is a total b*tch.
Well respected? No, of course not. Every guy wants to be with a woman whose own friends think she's a loser.
Spontaneous. Hmmmm, maybe living life by a strict schedule would be better for Ronald? "Honey, lets go out to dinner tonight. Sorry dear, I've scheduled laundry and "American Idol" for this evening.
How about classy? Maybe a girl who wears dirty overalls 24/7 and picks her teeth during dinner would be good.

[stan4]

It's weird. I hear guys and girls who complain about a lot of the same things, but at the same time, I know a lot of guys and girls who are like the women described by the op. Maybe it's the city he lives in or something.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble

OK, just to play Devil's Advocate here, which of these qualities (other than childless and imperfect) do you think he should give up in order to widen the field of play?

I'm not saying he should give up any. I'm saying it's unrealistic. How many of us have all these qualities, seriously? As much as we may aspire to, I've never met anyone with them all. And I've met a lot of great people in 50 years--men and women. But, if you insist I chose one, I'd probably have to choose 'etc.' b'c who knows what else he's expecting her to be for him. I have a headache just thinking about it. LOL

[ronaldl79]

I think the reason the divorce rate is so high in America is because as a nation and people, we've lost our values. We leave relationships at the sign of any small thing. We don't attempt to patch things up and grow together.

When I was with my ex, I literally went to hell and back at times trying to work with her through her indecisiveness, lies, etc. She always needed attention from men and was always chatting it up with random guys and such. Regardless, I loved her dearly and I stayed longer than I should have simply because I believed in our ability to move beyond the issues.

There was a time where I used to wonder about the 'what ifs' with her, then I realized that there are billions of other possibilities in this world. I grew up in a household that wasn't healthy and I vowed to myself at an early age that I would break the cycle that so many families suffer from today. I would be the upstanding and loving father, the supportive partner and the attentive man in the bedroom, at the park, mall, etc.

As the old Foreigner song goes, "I want to know what love is." I know what it's like to love someone deeply and openly, but I haven't a clue of what it's like to receive it in return. I don't consider someone surprising me with a hot cooked meal as 'love' (which is what my ex always liked to point out -- She never wanted to admit to her infidelity, lying, etc.) -- There's so much more than that, because I can cook, clean and do my own laundry.

However, there's hope for future generations and I want to be one of the people who leaves a mark on the future for a brighter day. I was very happy to see a young boy today who joined my meetup group to help make cards for kids with cancer. He was a wonderful, creative kid and I could tell his parents were doing a wonderful job. I'd love to see more parents like his raising healthy children, because without them, we're only bound to repeat this same song of issues between men and women.

Originally Posted by Public_Newsense

Huh? I don't! LOL That's ok. I'm used to it.

I knew you were going to say that. I was just saying that's the kind of guy you sound like, someone who has to point out every ounce a woman gains. Also, not all supermodels are small and not only supermodels are small.

[DeanACM]

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

I am commanding throughout the universe an introduction to an extremely bright and wonderful woman who goes against everything we know or assume about women today. I am commanding into my life a woman who seeks to make a difference in the world with her dedication, determination, big heart and acts of kindness. I am commanding into my life a strong woman who isn't afraid of a challenge and obstacle. I am commanding into my life a woman who's socially aware and literally obsessed with improving the quality of life for all to benefit from. I am commanding into my life a woman who believes in partnership, shared sacrifice and genuine love.

Yes. Let's all get into a circle and hold hands, close our eyes, grit our teeth, and 'command' along with Ron here...

I'm just SURE that this perfect woman will fall out of the sky and land right into Ron's lap because of what an exceptional human being he is.

Meanwhile, the rest of us decent guys have to do what it takes to meet the right girl in the real world.

[IonRedline08]

When did Todd Bridges start posting on CD?