Celibacy Blues (guy, young, kid, pregnant)

[Mathguy]

Originally Posted by KMG1

Yeah I'm not a virgin and we were together for 8 months. My friend (whose opinion I value) said he deserves a gold metal for waiting that long, lol.

So, where is this guy now and is he seeing anyone? (no not for me lol)
Was this the likely reason or did frustration over this cause other issues etc?

Did you ever discuss it?

If he is single, then write down what you want to say....call him and read it off. OR you could write him a note I guess or sit down and talk it over with him.

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I'd agree - IF YOU'RE A VIRGIN! I don't think she is.

Why do you think only virgins get to be celibate? Maybe there are people who have figured out that having sex was keeping them from having a real realtionship and decided to become celibate until they found someone who wants a real relationship and not just a human sex toy.

[lionking]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

There's nothing wrong with living a celibate life. You are not denying yourself anything. I feel sorry for people who believe sex is the end all and be all of life. There is so much more to life than sex.

When one does have sex it should be a throughly enjoyable and it can't be if you are wondering if this is all the person wants from you. A period of getting to know a person before sex is never a bad thing. But you have to tell the person in advance that this is the type of relationship you want so they can decide if they want that, too.

If someone is going to leave you simply because you won't have sex with them, then that's all they wanted in the first place and you dodged a major bullet.

Wrong,it means they finally realized that they will never get the carrot on the stick even though they are aching in hunger and if you do there is a good chance it won't taste as good by then as you thought it would.

[Crustedfilth]

Sex is a huge part of a relationship. If its no good then one or the other is going to stray. One must know if they are getting what they want before marrying.

Saving yourself for marriage is an antiquated idea.

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by KMG1

Yeah I'm not a virgin and we were together for 8 months. My friend (whose opinion I value) said he deserves a gold metal for waiting that long, lol.

If you didn't feel comfortable then you did the right thing. He doesn't deserve a gold medal for waiting for 8 whole months. If he truly loved you, you would have known he did and you would have felt comfortable enough to have sex with him.

If you decided to wait until marriage and he knew this then he told you in no uncertain terms that he never intended to marry you. You dodged a bullet. Any man who will leave you because you aren't having sex with him doesn't want to be with you. What is he going to do if you medically can't have sex? He'll leave. or cheat. Is that the man you want to be in a relationship with?

[ImCurlybelle]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

If you didn't feel comfortable then you did the right thing. He doesn't deserve a gold medal for waiting for 8 whole months. If he truly loved you, you would have known he did and you would have felt comfortable enough to have sex with him.

WOW ... 8 months is along time, I'm not sure I could date someone I was attracted to and not be all over him after 2 months ... LOL!

I might be a ho.

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by lionking

Wrong,it means they finally realized that they will never get the carrot on the stick even though they are aching in hunger and if you do there is a good chance it won't taste as good by then as you thought it would.

I don't want anything to do with a man whose entire life revolves around sex. Good riddance.

[KMG1]

Originally Posted by Mathguy

So, where is this guy now and is he seeing anyone? (no not for me lol)
Was this the likely reason or did frustration over this cause other issues etc?

Did you ever discuss it?

If he is single, then write down what you want to say....call him and read it off. OR you could write him a note I guess or sit down and talk it over with him.

Let's just say he's with someone who would give it up and did.

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by KMG1

Let's just say he's with someone who would give it up and did.

Proof positive that he only wanted sex and not a real relationship. He was probably seeing her the whole time while he was pretending to wait for you. I repeat: You dodged a bullet.

[ImCurlybelle]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

I don't want anything to do with a man whose entire life revolves around sex. Good riddance.

No offense, but if the guy stuck around for 8 months he wasn't interested in sex, but moreso you ! Haa !! News flash: Most men won't stick around longer than 3 months if they aren't getting any. If you don't feed the dog, the dog will wander the neighborhood and there's always a neighbor to take in the dog ... Sex is an important part of life. Some people have intimacy issues and use it as a weapon- It is a healthy expression of affection and love for one another- If you aren't on the same page let him free to find someone who will be on the same page.