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I'm all for Dutch, Australian, whatever you want to call it. Split the bill.
I'm a generous person, so if the bill comes and she offers to split that means a lot, even if I am paying full freight. That means she isn't a moocher and has a sense of fairness.
For the women that demand/expect us men pay for the first date, where did that idea come from? And why do we have to pay 100%? Who put the rule down we have to do that? The whole sense of entitlement is one personality characteristic that just drives me away from people. Can't stand it.
What's with this "buy me drink" bit these american women run around doing? Any woman that comes up and asks me to buy them a drink I say Naa get lost. Why would I buy some bar queen I don't even know a drink? Who do you think you are? Is that the price of admission to get to know you? What kind of BS is that?
I only dated women from other countries from 2000-2006/2007 and getting back to dating American women was a shocker. Really disappointing and I actually have pulled the plug on dating right now and am not really serious anytime soon about getting back to it. With these American women you just pay and pay and pay and you never stop paying. I feel like the free dinner and entertainment clown here to stuff your face and provide endless entertainment on demand.
Maybe he's broke. But when I was on a date, I footed the bill for everything. Call me old-fashioned, but I just couldn't let my dates pay for a thing.
I always paid on the first date, the second, the third, and so on. I agree with cpg. Even the time I was asked out instead of doing the asking, I paid for it. Upset her but she said she understood.
A guy asked me out and paid the dinner, but when we were in a bar, he told me he has no cash, and I paid for the drinks which is ok.
But no cash? why did he ask me to go to the bar after dinner and made me pay it?
Did he pay for dinner with a debit/credit card? Although it's rare, maybe the bar doesn't accept debit/credit cards.
Whoever asked to go out on the date should pay, whether it was the guy or girl. So if the guy asked the girl on the date, yes, he should pay for all. Of course the girl can offer (this round's on me) or (let me get the tip), but since he asked, she shouldn't be expected to pay for anyone.
That's like a host asking people over to his house for the dinner......everyone's sitting around the dinner table.....and then the host is looking expectantly at the people for them to break out the main course!
I always paid when dating, regardless. Even now, when my wife's friends, or my female friends call to meet for lunch, I always insist on paying. Only in groups do I actually request separate checks.
I would try to politely insist on paying for everything (drinks, dinner, event (if planned), etc.) unless the following happen:
1. The woman is a feminazi and demands paying her portion because no man will "control" her. (This is a one time date with freaks like that).
2. The woman really wants to pay her portion (to show she is independent and wants to be with me not for money but because she likes me).
3. My card get's declined (I've had this happen once before. Embarassing, but it was the company's fault... I swear!!) (Oh... and I learn to carry cash just in case... just don't like $100-$200 in my pocket).
A guy asked me out and paid the dinner, but when we were in a bar, he told me he has no cash, and I paid for the drinks which is ok.
But no cash? why did he ask me to go to the bar after dinner and made me pay it?
That is just stupid!! I might have went ahead and paid so we didn't look stupid. Note to stupid guys!! If you don't have any money don't ask the girl out on a date until you can pay. I mean if she asked you out and wanted to pay that would be a whole other story.
Now that I'm older I do...however when I was a young kid and used to hang out at a place called "Frankies Chinese Steakhouse" and get picked up by "Cougars" They always payed! And Why not?
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I might have went ahead and paid so we didn't look stupid. Note to stupid guys!! If you don't have any money don't ask the girl out on a date until you can pay. I mean if she asked you out and wanted to pay that would be a whole other story.
