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I am a complete idiot. I totally missed the underlying issue here. The men that are complaining, are annoyed because when they ask a woman out, pay for a dinner, and then she doesn't want to go out again, they feel like they have wasted their money. Holy crap. How the hell did I NOT see that?? Somebody slap me.
I am a complete idiot. I totally missed the underlying issue here. The men that are complaining, are annoyed because when they ask a woman out, pay for a dinner, and then she doesn't want to go out again, they feel like they have wasted their money. Holy crap. How the hell did I NOT see that??
To paraphrase an acquaintance, they treat women as vending machines. You put a few coins in the slot, press a button, and you expect a chocolate bar/bag of chips/can of soda to come out the other end. The men in question put some food in a woman's mouth, they expect her to spread her legs. If the vending machine eats up your quarters and doesn't give you anything, you push it, perhaps hit it or shake it, yell at it. You become angry, you feel swindled. A thought crosses your mind that you've been defrauded of your $1.25 by the evil, evil vending machine. And you would certainly feel stupefied if anyone suggested to you that the vending machine has a choice on whether to give you candy after you've put money in it. It's just a vending machine, isn't it? Its whole purpose in life is to shoot candy out the bottom -- isn't it?
To paraphrase an acquaintance, they treat women as vending machines. You put a few coins in the slot, press a button, and you expect a chocolate bar/bag of chips/can of soda to come out the other end. The men in question put some food in a woman's mouth, they expect her to spread her legs. If the vending machine eats up your quarters and doesn't give you anything, you push it, perhaps hit it or shake it, yell at it. You become angry, you feel swindled. A thought crosses your mind that you've been defrauded of your $1.25 by the evil, evil vending machine. And you would certainly feel stupefied if anyone suggested to you that the vending machine has a choice on whether to give you candy after you've put money in it. It's just a vending machine, isn't it? Its whole purpose in life is to shoot candy out the bottom -- isn't it?
LOL! Hysterical! If I could rep you 1000 points right now, I would!
I didn't read all the replies, but here's mine. The person who does the asking does the paying. If you asked me, you're paying. If you ask me to a movie, you're buying the tickets. If I feel like having popcorn, I might buy it, but it would be awfully nice of you to get the snacks if you're so inclined. If I invite YOU to the movies or dinner or an amusement park or whatever, I'M paying, so put away your wallet. That's just manners, people.
If the chemistry is not there and I don't want to see you again, I'm not paying for the date you asked me on. And frankly, if you expected it, no wonder I don't want to see you anymore. Dating is taking chances and seeing if you are romantically interested in people. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't.
The person who does the asking does the paying. If you asked me, you're paying.
I don't like the vending machine analogy. It's not true for over 1/2 the men out there. For most healthy people, the purpose of a date is to learn about the other person, find out if there's chemistry, and to read the vibes as to whether or not there will be another date.
Right. The person that asks pays. I have no problem with that. However, be somewhat of a "sleuth" to figure out in advance if paying for more than one date would be a waste of money.
What are you, the friggin' entitlement police or something? What makes you think you are "entitled" to an explanation of what I have done to deserve it? YOU don't determine what I deserve, I do.
I am. I've got my badge and furry handcuffs and everything.
I am. I've got my badge and furry handcuffs and everything.
Well now. If you wore those on the date, she just might go out with ya again.
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