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Yep...I agree. When my guy doesn`t want anything to do with me anymore, but talks about other women in that way, you bet your a$$ I would be long gone!
I love him more than anything, and I really want to work it out, but I just don't think I have it in me to keep going....
I'll agree with others: it's over. Gammerus, he obviously doesn't have "it" anymore, and you admit that you "don't think you have it in me to keep going."
So since you're new at all this, here's what you do: you sit down soon and in a quiet (probably tear-filled) conversation, you tell him that you can see that its obvious for both of you that it's over. Don't yell and scream, don't hurl mean accusations...there's really no need for that, really. By what you have indicated, there has been no betrayal, no rupturing event. He may say "Oh no dear, I really need you. Let's try it all over again, etc. etc." But don't do it--you'd just be delaying the inevitable pain (for more on the pain of being in an intimacy deprived relationship, see: sexless marriage) And don't B.S. around the subject -- DON'T bring out the tired, worn-out cliches: "it's me, not you"; "I love you but I'm not *in* love with you"; "let's just be friends." Just be mature and honest and can all that baloney. It may be a little tougher right now, but it will be better in the long run to be honest and forthright.
The bottom line is that you had some good times, but it's not happening anymore. You'll always remember him, of course, and there certainly were good moments you'll cherish. But there's no point going on in a lame relationship that could lead into much greater heartbreak down the road via missing out on good times with the "right" guy, a bad marriage, etc. DTMFA.
Yeah, this is about the time you break up. Spend a good amount of time single and just date. This is your time to grow and figure out what you want out of life and what you want out of the people in your life.
I agree with everyone else, sounds like the relationship has run its course - time to move on. I know it's hard, but since this was your first big relationship you must take what you've learned and move on to others. Every experience will help you over time to be ready for the right one when it comes along. Best of luck!
my boyfriend is the same way and i've been with him for five years. i've been trying to break it off but its hard. but if he is changing who you are and how you feel about youself, you have to leave.
There is no easy way out of a relationship. Sounds like a case of neither of you wanting to be the first to say goodbye (Gladys Knight anyone?). Suggest a trial separation and then see other people, if it's meant to be, it will be.
Don't yell and scream, don't hurl mean accusations...there's really no need for that, really.
This is interesting to me, as I can't personally think of many meaner things than spending all your time telling the girlfriend with whom you decline intimacy how hot you think other women are and how much you want to be with them.
I wouldn't worry too much about coming off as "mean" to such a person, myself.
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you bet your a$$ I would be long gone! 
