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Old 01-06-2009, 01:17 PM
 
Location: Montrose, CA
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So, I have this dilemma - ladies, what do you do when your guy touches you way too much? what I mean is, I have gone out with a few guys who have just done way too much touching.
If it's my boyfriend, there's no way he can give me "too much" touching. We touch all the time, if we're within arm's reach of each other.

Just a date though? I'd send them packing.
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Old 01-06-2009, 01:17 PM
 
Location: SoCal - Sherman Oaks & Woodland Hills
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So, I have this dilemma - ladies, what do you do when your guy touches you way too much? what I mean is, I have gone out with a few guys who have just done way too much touching.

(p.s.- these aren't bf's)
I think you need to either let the know that they are only friends and will be nothing more so that they know that touching is inappropriate. Or, maybe you need to reevaluate yourself - every woman Ive ever been with WANTED to be touched or have me show some type of physical interest (be it kissing, hand holding, caressing her arm, etc.) to let them know that I care.

You also used the term "your guy" in your post. Why wouldnt you want "your guy" to touch you? Heck, you look GOOD!! You are very attractive, any guy would want to touch.
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Old 01-06-2009, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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well, I think my point may be a little lost here. I don't mind touching or affection. I'm talking about being on the couch together watching tv casually (or other non-sexual contact) and the need for him to constantly rub my arm, kiss me or touch me. that's all. it gets bothersome to me when he has to do it all the time.




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If it's my boyfriend, there's no way he can give me "too much" touching. We touch all the time, if we're within arm's reach of each other.

Just a date though? I'd send them packing.
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Old 01-06-2009, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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thank you for the kind words, da beez, I don't have problems with him touching me, its the fact that I don't have to be touched constantly!! that's the point I was trying to make. and I wanted a way to let them know without sounding mean about it or that I don't want contact other times.



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I think you need to either let the know that they are only friends and will be nothing more so that they know that touching is inappropriate. Or, maybe you need to reevaluate yourself - every woman Ive ever been with WANTED to be touched or have me show some type of physical interest (be it kissing, hand holding, caressing her arm, etc.) to let them know that I care.

You also used the term "your guy" in your post. Why wouldnt you want "your guy" to touch you? Heck, you look GOOD!! You are very attractive, any guy would want to touch.
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Old 01-06-2009, 01:37 PM
 
Location: On the Sunny Side of the Street
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Yeah, that kind of touching is just overkill and completely irritating. I don't have anything against body contact, but enough is enough, especially when it isn't a boyfriend.

Body language usually works ... sit in a chair. That way you're separated
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Old 01-06-2009, 03:06 PM
 
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Seems like the concesus is just to not be afraid and let them know that you don't want to constantly be touched. Question is, why are you so afraid to do so?
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Old 01-06-2009, 03:13 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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now, now, opti!- I'm not talking a vacation to the South of France or anything, but a guy I'm seeing for a few weeks or so, it's not unheard of to go away for a weekend. doesn't even have to be far.
payment isn't an issue, maybe we split the costs, I don't remember. it's just the phenomenon of: just because we are in the room-to change for dinner, or drop off our bags,etc- doesn't mean I feel like having sex or groping right away. that's all.
It doesn't mean I don't like sex, either, it just means (to me), that I want to wait until later, let's go out first, let's go eat or walk around whatever.
A woman who doesn't remember if she paid? Toothfairy and bigfoots lovechild???
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Old 01-06-2009, 03:22 PM
 
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Wow, you must be hot. Just be up front with him. If he does not respect you and reduce the contact then drop him. You deserve better.
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Old 01-06-2009, 03:34 PM
 
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touch back
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Old 01-07-2009, 06:17 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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just don't want to hurt their feelings, I guess. but I'll work on ways to let him know I don't want constant touch.



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Seems like the concesus is just to not be afraid and let them know that you don't want to constantly be touched. Question is, why are you so afraid to do so?
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