Why birth control - there is no sex (anniversary, crying)

[Blondie621]

I have no idea...could be for health reasons maybe....ask her. Personally I do not like anything that goes against mother nature, that changes my bodys natural ways. In that department I always left that up to the man! They need some responsibility when it comes to sex!

[KittySkyfish]

Conversation. LONG overdue.

[restorationpromise]

It may be nothing, but she likes to keep somethings a mystery to me. She asked me if she had a seperate perscription account for our meds, and I explained to her that they were billed on the same account. I payed for the BC meds. This relationship is in serious condition but has improved somewhat. I am just not sure where to turn. I feel I am a good man but not perfect. I never realized how much disfunction she would bring into my life and put children in the middle of it.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by restorationpromise

It may be nothing, but she likes to keep somethings a mystery to me. She asked me if she had a seperate perscription account for our meds, and I explained to her that they were billed on the same account. I payed for the BC meds. This relationship is in serious condition but has improved somewhat. I am just not sure where to turn. I feel I am a good man but not perfect. I never realized how much disfunction she would bring into my life and put children in the middle of it.

Oh gosh, you already procreated??? Please find a therapist and drag your wife there with you to get some basic conversation going!

[thebanker]

Just ask her. Sounds like she is cheating.

[ulnevrwalkalone]

Originally Posted by restorationpromise

I guess I need a talk with my wife sometime. She is deffinately trying to keep this a secrete but I just discovered it. Why is she taking birthcontrol? We have not had sex in years. Is she horny and ready to get back in bed with me? Is she having a sex fling? Or does birth control help reduce PMS or whatever side effects?

Here is a better question, why are you willing to talk about this to a bunch of strangers but hesitant to talk to your wife??? Are you closer to us than her? What could anyone possibly say here that would not result in you talking to your wife about it?

Hopefully you read the first couple posts and took their advice to talk to her, if you have not then stop reading this and go talk to her.

[cpg35223]

There are any number of medical reasons. But if that were really the case, don't you think she would have told you about them to alleviate suspicion?

I'm fairly certain she's stepping out on you. Sorry to tell you.

[Mathguy]

Originally Posted by restorationpromise

It may be nothing, but she likes to keep somethings a mystery to me. She asked me if she had a seperate perscription account for our meds, and I explained to her that they were billed on the same account. I payed for the BC meds. This relationship is in serious condition but has improved somewhat. I am just not sure where to turn. I feel I am a good man but not perfect. I never realized how much disfunction she would bring into my life and put children in the middle of it.

Asking about separate accounts for meds? Past history of "mystery"....

Yeah, high probability of cheating.

Years without sex for the sake of the kids? Bad relationship for the sake of the kids? Um, kids pick up on things like their parents not getting along. There are worse things than divorce.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Mathguy

Asking about separate accounts for meds? Past history of "mystery"....

Yeah, high probability of cheating.

Years without sex for the sake of the kids? Bad relationship for the sake of the kids? Um, kids pick up on things like their parents not getting along. There are worse things than divorce.

Listen to him. He's a mathematics guy. So he deals with probabilities.

[J double R]

Originally Posted by Ivorytickler

Birth control pills also increase the risk of breast cancer, blood clots heart attacks and strokes. No doctor will prescribe them for health benefits. That would be like prescribing aspirin therapy for women. Sure you reduce the risk of a heart attack but you increase the risk of a hemoragic stroke. They may prescribe BC to treat a specific condition. Does your wife have a condition that might be treated with BC?

What bothers me is she's keeping it a secret. Why would she keep a medical condition being treated by BC a secret? I'm sorry to say, most likely, she's having an affair. Why else would she need to keep this a secret?

Are you a doctor? if no doctor would prescribe them for health benefits, then why, 3 sentences later, would a doctor then prescribe it to treat a specific condition?

This is an old thread.. i wonder what the OP found out?