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Old 01-08-2009, 05:59 PM
 
Location: New England
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Anybody married to someone who is never wrong (in their mind).

My wife is someone who thinks she is never wrong. Everything gets twisted back to me. So I am to the point where I don't even bring anything up anymore.

It is not my nature to argue. and not a very good arguer anyway. So it just builds up, and that isn't healthy.

If you are in this situation, how the heck do you handle someone like this. Issues need to be discussed, not twisted.
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:07 PM
 
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I am not married to someone this way but I have a friend who was and she found going to Amaga therapy halped her marriage tremendously. It is based on "mirroring", is my understanding.

I really feel for you...hopefully you can work through this!
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:10 PM
 
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Thumbs down Bummer

I feel sorry for anyone to be married to someone who thinks they know it all. The most dangerous person one can ever come across is one who cannot admit fault.
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:12 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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I was married to this person. EVERYTHING ABOUT ME WAS WRONG, AND SHE WAS PERFECT.

"We never talk!" so you try..."you talk too much" after awhile you stop trying, and guess what? THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT SHE WANTS! Why do I say that? Because, it's not natural for a woman to not want to talk, unless she has reasons! Reason being 99-100, she's engaged in fun conversation with somebody else, a lot.
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:13 PM
 
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I'm one of those that tries to negotiate and understand. If that doesn't happen then it is a full on intellectual debate.

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Anybody married to someone who is never wrong (in their mind).

My wife is someone who thinks she is never wrong. Everything gets twisted back to me. So I am to the point where I don't even bring anything up anymore.

It is not my nature to argue. and not a very good arguer anyway. So it just builds up, and that isn't healthy.

If you are in this situation, how the heck do you handle someone like this. Issues need to be discussed, not twisted.
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:15 PM
 
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Anybody married to someone who is never wrong (in their mind).

My wife is someone who thinks she is never wrong. Everything gets twisted back to me. So I am to the point where I don't even bring anything up anymore.

It is not my nature to argue. and not a very good arguer anyway. So it just builds up, and that isn't healthy.

If you are in this situation, how the heck do you handle someone like this. Issues need to be discussed, not twisted.
Lol, i share a house with someone who is like this. I am not confrontational but at first I would point out the facts and show how she is wrong and how i am clearly right, yet I still turned out to be Wrong! I dont agrue anymore either and recently I have stated kick boxing to let out my fustration. Before that I would go outside and have a scream! The neighbours think Im mad lol
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:22 PM
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Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Lol, i share a house with someone who is like this. I am not confrontational but at first I would point out the facts and show how she is wrong and how i am clearly right, yet I still turned out to be Wrong! I dont agrue anymore either and recently I have stated kick boxing to let out my fustration. Before that I would go outside and have a scream! The neighbours think Im mad lol
Perhaps that kickboxing will come in handy next time she pulls her crap!
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:25 PM
 
Location: Somewhere out there.
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Anybody married to someone who is never wrong (in their mind).

My wife is someone who thinks she is never wrong. Everything gets twisted back to me. So I am to the point where I don't even bring anything up anymore.

It is not my nature to argue. and not a very good arguer anyway. So it just builds up, and that isn't healthy.

If you are in this situation, how the heck do you handle someone like this. Issues need to be discussed, not twisted.
What exactly is she doing/saying? Is she deflecting or not acknowledging your concerns or???
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:27 PM
 
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What were you thinking when you married her? Did you think she would eventually figure out she's wrong?

Seriously, you might want to consider marital counseling.
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Old 01-08-2009, 07:19 PM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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Why did you marry her? If you are sneaking into the other room to post negative comments about your spouse on city-data, well that is not a good sign.
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