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Old 01-13-2009, 08:34 AM
Location: Wichita,Kansas
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Anyone else have a tough time in their early 30s?

Regret that education/career-wise you arent where you feel you..
Should be?
Finding out that dating or meeting people wasnt as easy as your 20's.

When i hit 30 i did the whole" what have i done with my life thing"
Anyone else have a tough time?
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Old 01-13-2009, 08:42 AM
Location: The Great State of Texas, Finally!
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Wait until you hit 40. I kept thinking during my 30s that the life I wanted would somehow happen. Still unable to make it happen at 40.
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Old 01-13-2009, 08:53 AM
Location: Philly
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I turned 30 last April. Funny thing was I had done so much thinking about 30, that when I got there, the day came and went with no real fanfare.

I didn't have any of those regrets. I wasn't married, or in a serious relationship, and I did have some questions about when and if I was going to ever find somebody for me. But it all worked out. I left a job I loved but was not benefitting my personal life. And now I'm working towards marriage. It wasn't because I turned 30, it just happened that it all started happening at 30.

I heard this powerful quote that I can't remember verbatim, but pretty much it states the only ones who regret getting older are those who haven't done anything worthwhile with their lives up to that point.

I find those words so true. While I had some good years in my 20's, they are done. I worked hard those years, and that time has come and gone. I'm ready to keep moving.
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Old 01-13-2009, 09:09 AM
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You know, when I hit 30, I was on my way already. I really didn't have regrets. I had recently married, gotten two promotions in short order, and had it going on.

When I hit 40, it was a little tougher, mainly because I had some reversals in my professional life. So I had to really do some clear-headed thinking to ensure I stayed on the right track.

I think it's a good think to assess where you are at those ages. The thing, however, isn't to wallow in your problems, but decide how to get what you want.
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Old 01-13-2009, 10:16 AM
Location: SE Michigan
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30 is the new 18, so is 31, 32 and I'll let you know about 33 in less than 2 months.
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Old 01-13-2009, 10:47 AM
Location: South Bay Native
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No regrets with education - I am in a perpetual state of educating myself! In my early 30s I had a big revelation about the direction in which I need to take my life, and I haven't looked back since. There are still some missing components, but for the most part, I have what I want. I feel so lucky to have children too - it's beyond rewarding - they help me to stay on the right path and inspire me to be the best person I can be.
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Old 01-13-2009, 10:51 AM
Location: SC
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I think we all reach a point in our lives as we grow older where we evaluate the past as well as the future. I have some regrets... such as not going to college and not taking better care of my body. But for the most part, it is the choices I made in the past whether right or wrong, that made me who I am today. I am a stronger, better person for it. I now look forward to the future... cant wait to see whats ahead!
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Old 01-13-2009, 10:54 AM
Location: Wyoming
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I do remember my mother saying that 30 was the toughest birthday she'd ever had. I was actually happy to turn 30, because most of my friends and business associates were older than me. I always felt like a kid until 30.

Birthdays never bothered me until I hit 60 a couple years ago. Where has life gone? Wasn't it just last year that I finished high school? I have so many things I still want to do, but the clock is ticking down....
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Old 01-13-2009, 11:51 AM
Location: Planet earth
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My life did not start until I was approaching 30...
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Old 01-13-2009, 12:06 PM
Location: Earth
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I am 31 and my life has just started. It's very exciting
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