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Hi Im 19 and I got a job last year at a restaurant and somehow have gotton deeply involved with my 36 year old boss. Hes married, he has a child and he also has another women on the side besides me! Last week I ended it but I know Im still in love with the jerk,it wont go away! Im trying to leave my job but I dont want to leave without finding another one. It hurts alot because I also live only TWO blocks away from him! so I see him often even if Im not at work. Ive found myself getting extremely jealous of that second women even though I know this man isnt right for me. I just dont know what to do anymore. I thought I was stronger than this but this morning I found myself crying for no reason. Even though Ive thought this out logically my emotions still get the best of me. I cant get over him.
If I were you, I would give his wife a call and lay it all out on the table. Don't get angry. Just tell her what is going on. Tell her you never want to see him again and ask for her help.
Agreed! Your only 19. I`m sorry that your life is starting out so messy.
It doesn`t have to stay this way. You know that this is not right.
Shame on him!
Get out of the job ASAP! Put your energy into your friends, and family.
Put it into finding a diffrent job, and let him waller in his own self! ICK!!
I'd say to the OP -- hang in there!! If you're tenacious enough you may just outlast the others! Go for it. Make sure the others know about you in the picture at all times, at some point they may decide to opt out and then this old guy is all yours!
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Yes, this sounds like typical restaurant drama.
If I were you, I would give his wife a call and lay it all out on the table. Don't get angry. Just tell her what is going on. Tell her you never want to see him again and ask for her help.
And if I were that wife I'd say, You knowingly take part in destroying my marriage and you want MY help? Ha! Bend over and I'll start by helping you get this shoe up your !Now wise up and start using some of those brains God gave you, that's my help to you.
Why am I so hard on her? B'c I've been there. At 18, a 30-something married man came on to me and while I might have been attracted to him were he single, I couldn't bring myself to take part in destroying a family. If he wants to do it on his own, that's his problem, I wasn't about to make it mine, too. The 'he's gonna do it anyway' mentality doesn't cut it. All that's saying is you condone his lack of morals.
I am sure that he is very charismatic. That is how "his kind" works. I agree with the poster above that he borders on a child molester. Why do you love him? Are you looking for a father figure? Do you have it in the back of your mind that you can't do any better? Think about this... a few years from now you are married (you think happily), you have a baby... and then you find out the love of your life (you married him) is cheating on you. With not one but two (or more) women. How would that make you feel? I can tell you... he doesn't love you... he is using you for a piece on the side. If it's not you it will be someone else. And he probably won't even miss you.. Sorry... but he would just be onto the next relationship. Men like that don't have a clue what love is. They are selfish and self centered. Get out while you still can. Before you get pregnant and have a baby that ties you to this trash for the rest of your life.
Go out and get someone younger and more handsome. Go out with friends or such instead of sitting around.
I second the calling his wife statement, she should know since he kinda is married with kids and you should possibly inform the other girlfriend too. Damn, why not just make this guys life a living hell..
He sounds like your soul mate. I think you should pursue it further. Skip the birth control, maybe you'll get pregnant. Maybe he can get the other woman pregnant too. Maybe the wife can get pregnant too. Then you can all live happily ever after.
Can I get involved with him too? His sounds dreamy.
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! Now wise up and start using some of those brains God gave you, that's my help to you. 
