Patience a virtue with eHarmony(dating service) (how to, women, kiss)

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by killer2021

Anyone worth meeting is NOT on eharmony. In fact, I'd say dating should be exactly face to face type interaction.

I was wondering how long it would take for someone to say this. Of course dating should be face to face. But what if you have a hard time meeting singles worth dating? People lead busy lives with work, school, etc. and don't often have time to meet anyone. That's why tools like eharmony can come in handy. But like online dating sites, eharmony requires patience. Too many people join and quit after a month or two cause they haven't found anyone. That would be like joining a church hoping to meet someone and then leaving after a month because you didn't find that person. People today have no patience. We expect things immediately, whether it's a date, a job, or weight loss. I think anyone serious about meeting someone online should stick with it for a year. That doesn't mean you use that as your only method of meeting people and it doesn't mean you seach the site every day. It just means you keep that option in the background. Most experts suggest giving it a year as well.

[Huckleberry3911948]

i know several people that use it to get their dates. they date exclusively from the site. fit the profile very well, appearance is critical. i would rate these people high on appearance and personality. they seem to handle breakups very well. they also do not seem to be overly upset about misrepresentations. these people i mentioned have significant problems but are functional.

[Mathguy]

Originally Posted by smoky_topaz

My parents signed me up on eHarmony.com a few years back (before I met my ex, whom I dated from 28-30.) They all bought into the commercials on the radio and TV and said that was the "best" place for me to meet quality men. No, I met my ex from Match.com, where the "wacko" quotient is high but you can get dates more easily, mind you.I talked to a few on there who were interesting, but didn't have anyy dates out of eHarmony (from a 10 mo. period) I also tried out eHarmony for seven months back in 2004. Once agian I tired of it and took up with a new boyfriend met somewhere else. I tink you can save a little dough and use eHarmony's promotional coupons before you give it a go. People on the site and especially the success stories, and one clairvoyant, say that you must "be patient with eHarmony" to be a success. I thought I would give myself a subscription for Valentive's Day. What do you all think of EHarmony?

Give it a shot. Also check out plentyoffish.com. Plenty has the same nutjobs as match but at least it's free. My current gf I met on Plenty and it is going VERY well....she met some real whack-jobs on Match, so much so that she had to start screening using the sex-offender registries, felons lists etc. pre-date from that site.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Mathguy

Give it a shot. Also check out plentyoffish.com. Plenty has the same nutjobs as match but at least it's free. My current gf I met on Plenty and it is going VERY well....she met some real whack-jobs on Match, so much so that she had to start screening using the sex-offender registries, felons lists etc. pre-date from that site.

MG!

[smoky_topaz]

Rep for you DennyCrane. Very good thoughts!

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Mathguy

Give it a shot. Also check out plentyoffish.com. Plenty has the same nutjobs as match but at least it's free. My current gf I met on Plenty and it is going VERY well....she met some real whack-jobs on Match, so much so that she had to start screening using the sex-offender registries, felons lists etc. pre-date from that site.

Hey I was just wondering about you the other day. And here you are!

[Mathguy]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Hey I was just wondering about you the other day. And here you are!

Took a little break, trying to post less and be productive with other things.

[tkdmom]

Originally Posted by smoky_topaz

My parents signed me up on eHarmony.com a few years back (before I met my ex, whom I dated from 28-30.) They all bought into the commercials on the radio and TV and said that was the "best" place for me to meet quality men. No, I met my ex from Match.com, where the "wacko" quotient is high but you can get dates more easily, mind you.I talked to a few on there who were interesting, but didn't have anyy dates out of eHarmony (from a 10 mo. period) I also tried out eHarmony for seven months back in 2004. Once agian I tired of it and took up with a new boyfriend met somewhere else. I tink you can save a little dough and use eHarmony's promotional coupons before you give it a go. People on the site and especially the success stories, and one clairvoyant, say that you must "be patient with eHarmony" to be a success. I thought I would give myself a subscription for Valentive's Day. What do you all think of EHarmony?

Eharmony is were I met a guy from planet coo-coo ! He said he was a great father, financially secure...blah..blah...blah...all lies of course. Not only that, but any half decent match I got seemed to live 200+ miles away. I personally think it's a waste of money. I would rather try dating locally, that way it's a little easier to spot a buster for what he really is, sooner rather than later, imo. But then again, my friend married her new husband that she met on eharm.

[cobolt]

I just don't see why you'd return to the scene of the crime? Personally I've had more luck being involved in my community and doing things that interest me when it comes to meeting men who are dating material.

[katmoney]

I was really doubtful about the whole online dating thing, but decided to sign up for match while my friend signed up for eharmony. well I met an awesome guy within a month of signing up, and she's still yet to meet anyone cool.

I'm glad I gave it a try after all! Funny, he was the only person I'd ever met online too and it worked out wonderfully.