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Brother, they really must not make them as they used to anymore... With my preference of a pretty big age difference in their favor most of my life so far, my only problem ever was how to slow them down. Looks like I should look into younger dudes if I want some peace. Sorry, girlie, no experience with having to perk guys up.
I don't know. I hung out with a 31 year old a couple of years ago...and girl...perking him UP was NOT a problem. If he was anything typical, man, I kinda like 31.
I offered to watch a little porn on the net with him tonight. He told me no, because he knows that I will just end up getting mad.
I explained to him, that its my idea..I am suggesting it. Take the offer!
He refused, so ???
I tried. I may add that we have never, ever had a low sex drive before!
Hmmm...I think its because we don`t have sex just anytime we want it anymore.
yankeegirl313, can you tell us:
1. what your age is
2. how long you two have been together
3. what your previous sex frequency was; and
4. how often you're doing it now
Why don't you have sex anytime you want it anymore? Are you always ready and he isn't? Does he now show no interest in pleasuring you?
Too pooped to pop at 31 is just wrong....I'm in my 40's and my libido has done nothing but increase as I have gotten older.
Would he be able to take Viagra with his meds? Who said Viagra was only for senior citizens?
I'm assuming he's taking meds for high blood pressure. Right? If so I don't think Viagra is an option... if it's even ED that's the problem. If it's low libido, Viagra doesn't help much.
I don't think the specific problem has been spelled out.
The Ambien is for sleep so that shouldn't affect his sex drive
Although the sexual side effects secondary to Ambien are infrequent (clinical trials estimate 0.1%), decreased libido and impotence have definitely been reported.
Beyond that, I'm not even going to attempt a treatise on the myriad of side effects due to antihypertensives, which vary by pharmacologic class (beta-blockers, angiotensin converting enzyme inhibitors, calcium channel blockers, etc), as well as dose, duration, and individual patient response.
This thread is not a substitute for a thorough discussion with his physician.
In the interim, the combination of antihypertensives, a hypnotic, and alcohol suggests that the wife should not assume that she is the cause.
I can speak from experience that when I was dieting (having lost 30+ lbs at that point) and working out heavily....coupled with some stress... my sex-drive took a plunge for about 3 weeks or so. Enough so to actually scare me that something medical could have occurred and I stopped my diet for a bit to see what the deal was.
Basically, it rebounded just fine and is as good as ever now.
It's one of two things:
1) His sex drive isn't THAT low, he is just having his O's elsewhere which could just mean that he gets an urge and you are on other shifts so he does some self-help. Maybe he is witholding from you for some reason(s).
2) Medical issues. Stress definitely can contribute a lot.
Try being more spontaneous too, you may get better results.
I'm rather skeptical about the "she needs to step it up" advice. It sounds like the problem is him, not her. From what yankeegirl tells us, she has not changed or done anything new/different. Rather, he seems to be now giving her the Heisman and he's not providing much (any?) guidance why.
Hell, thats nothing new. He`s combined them for months.
He is 31, and a sex fing! Who used to be a porn addict. Is he missing the vision of that?
You say he used to be a porn addict. How do u know he is no longer?
I say that, because of a phase I went through a few years ago. I was watching and getting off to alot of porn, then a relationship came along. Unable to put my finger exactly on why but when it came to performing in the bedroom with my partner, I was very hit and miss. More so than I'd ever been in my life.
Guess I was so used to the porn, the change of environment amoungst other changes effected me. Cut back on the porn and things Improved. I no longer watch and no longer plan to watch much when I'm in a relationship.
Bottom line alot of porn can effect your sex drive with your partner, as the porn distorts reality and takes your sexual energy elsewhere.
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Looks like I should look into younger dudes if I want some peace.
Sorry, girlie, no experience with having to perk guys up.
