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We would do the intimate thing and I would wander off into a separate bed, because he too would snore, and hog the blankies! To be honest the second bedroom kind of bought me a little space too.....U know to be alone, by myself for a few hours......Not to be bothered by anyone! Of course, we are no longer together, wonder if that made the difference?
In my opinion couples should sleep in the same bed, otherwise it's like you're very casual about your love or something. Sleeping together is one of the best parts of being together. Seriously. How could you NOT?
In my opinion couples should sleep in the same bed, otherwise it's like you're very casual about your love or something. Sleeping together is one of the best parts of being together. Seriously. How could you NOT?
Even love needs some time apart. When I get a g/f I do not expect to be with her 24/7 we need our space now and then.
I love sleeping with my husband, and waking up next to him. There's no way I would sleep apart from him in our own home. I couldn't put up with loud snoring, I would make him go to the doctor and deal with it rather than sleep in a separate room.
I don't know why someone would get married if they didn't want to sleep in the same bed with their spouse.
There are many reasons why spouses or domestic partners would opt for separate bedrooms:
1. One's a light sleeper, the other isn't.
2. One's a restless sleeper (tosses, turns, gets up during the night) and keeps waking the other up
3. Room temperature incompatibilty (this is a biggie!): One freezes, the other sweats like a porcine mammal.
4. One can't fall asleep without the window being open, the other can't fall asleep if it IS open
5. One insists on falling asleep with the TV on and wakes up if it's turned off, the other is ready to throw the blasted thing out the window (open or not!)
6. One says "the cat/dog must be allowed to sleep on the bed with us", the other says the bed's the one place in the house that must be pet-free
7. One snores, the other is driven stark raving mad by it
8. One needs complete silence and/or darkness to fall asleep and stay that way, so every sound or movement made by the other person either keeps them awake or wakes them up several times a night
I've always been a separate-bedrooms person (extremely light sleeper, no open window, very temperature and sound sensitive, etc) and even when traveling must have a hotel room with separate beds otherwise I will get absolutely NO sleep (as opposed to very LITTLE sleep, because of the different bed, hallway and outside noises, etc) at all.
There are many reasons why spouses or domestic partners would opt for separate bedrooms:
1. One's a light sleeper, the other isn't.
2. One's a restless sleeper (tosses, turns, gets up during the night) and keeps waking the other up
3. Room temperature incompatibilty (this is a biggie!): One freezes, the other sweats like a porcine mammal.
4. One can't fall asleep without the window being open, the other can't fall asleep if it IS open
5. One insists on falling asleep with the TV on and wakes up if it's turned off, the other is ready to throw the blasted thing out the window (open or not!)
6. One says "the cat/dog must be allowed to sleep on the bed with us", the other says the bed's the one place in the house that must be pet-free
7. One snores, the other is driven stark raving mad by it
8. One needs complete silence and/or darkness to fall asleep and stay that way, so every sound or movement made by the other person either keeps them awake or wakes them up several times a night
I've always been a separate-bedrooms person (extremely light sleeper, no open window, very temperature and sound sensitive, etc) and even when traveling must have a hotel room with separate beds otherwise I will get absolutely NO sleep (as opposed to very LITTLE sleep, because of the different bed, hallway and outside noises, etc) at all.
I understand those situations, believe me. I live them, but we also have solutions that keep us in the same bed.
I HAVE to sleep with the radio on, my husband needs total silence.
-I sleep with a little speaker under my pillow. I hear the radio, he doesn't.
I'm the one that snores.
-I wear breathe-right strips.
I need the fan blowing on me. He can't STAND it.
-We have a small fan angled so it blows on me alone.
He's a morning person, I stay up late.
-I sleep closest to the door.
He's the light sleeper, I can sleep through a bomb dropped at the foot of the bed and not even twitch!
I can't sleep without him. If, for whatever reason, I go to bed before him, i'll wind up laying awake until he comes to bed. As soon as he's in bed, i'm asleep.
... I can't sleep without him. If, for whatever reason, I go to bed before him, i'll wind up laying awake until he comes to bed. As soon as he's in bed, i'm asleep.
I guess it's just a preference thing.
Think you guessed wrong there, Lauri. That's love!
(Only reason I didn't quote your entire great post is because it's so close above this post )
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