Are you proving any gender specific stereotype wrong? (stereotypes, shopping, bars)

[Eresh]

I pretty much break many stereotypes. I .....
.. hate shopping.
.. have a tendency to think and make decisions based on logic/reason/evidence rather than emotions. (I've been told on more than one occasion that I 'think like a man', whatever that's supposed to mean.
.. don't wear jewelry and as little make up as possible
.. like fishing (even though I throw the fish back unless I know someone who will eat them)
.. don't like babies (except my own, of course)
.. prefer NOT to cuddle after sex
.. can't stand getting flowers and candy as gifts (much prefer something practical that I can use)
.. excel at math and science
.. don't show my emotions much (of course I have emotions, but the whole world doesn't need to know what I am feeling...)
.. can't stand displays of jealousy or drama
.. like metal music
.. don't go for guys because they are in a band; I prefer to be in the band myself.
.. am pretty good at tossing a football or a baseball
.. do NOT get all bent out of shape over things like guys opening doors for me.
.. am just as likely to buy a guy a drink as I am to drink one some guy bought for me
.. can't stand frilly, colorful decor and a bunch of knick-knacks cluttering up my home
.. am OK with coming home to find car parts spread out all over the dining room table
.. have no desire for a man who is over emotional or metro, but also have no desire for the stereotype macho man. ugh.

[aqua0]

I hate shopping.

I am very logical.

I never talk about my weight or dieting.

I am not jealous of prettier women or women with fabulous husbands.

I don't catfight.

I don't wear any jewelry.

I play a musical instrument.

I was in Math Honor Society in high school (Mu Alpha Theta).

I do not ooh and ahh over babies unless they are exceptionally cute, bouncy, and chubby.

I'm not after any woman's boyfriend or husband whatsoever.

Men are not my enemy.

When I speak, I do so concisely, and have a clear intro and definite ending. I don't meander my way around and go off on tangents. (Certain women drive me nuts sometimes when we're having conversation. I always have to ask them, "And the point is...." or "So what happens at the end?" just to move them forward as sometimes they are distracted by a passing detail.)

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by IZthe411

My girl thought that I wanted to feel needed and to take care of someone else, because, as her father and BILs told her, that's what all men want.

I told her, 'No, I don't need to take care of someone else, I want somebody that will compliment me, in turn that will make me want to care for them". My validation isn't based on taking care of somebody.

And the thread about 2 girls, 1 guy made inspired this thread. She swears that all dudes really want that, and if they got the chance they would. From what I read, not all don't She says I surprise her how much different I am from other boyfriends she's had. I don't think I'm different, but I tell her she can't assume that all guys think with their dick.

I just think she's used to dealing with 'typical' guys. I have a lot of things that I can say are common in most guys, but she definitely had to throw that typical crap out the window.

Do any of you contrast stereotypes associated with your gender?

Weird, I always thought most guys didn't want someone they felt they had to take care of. It would've been hard for me to buy into the opposite.

I think I disprove the ignorant assumption that good/nice/decent girls are no fun/boring/lonely/sex-starved... You don't have to look or dress like a stripper or hooker or rockstar in public to rock your man's world behind closed doors. Don't be silly--that's what I think when I read some of these stupid stereo-types.

[moonlitwishes]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

- not catty
- not competitive
- don't talk much
- can't stand the bubbly, perky, giggling types
- not asking questions of the sort of "am I fat?" or "do you love me?"
- never had biological clock ticking or was baby-crazy
- don't feel the need to "take care"
- have no desire to drag a man shopping since it’s no fun at all; prefer doing any shopping alone anyway
- like my space (as a matter of fact I was trying to find a way of getting my ex out of the house once in a blue moon)

That's off the top of my head for now.

Me too!! This sounds bad but my dad told me one time that I thought like a man, I have a need to make sense

I also do not do the "nothing" thing if something is irritating me he knows.
I see no reason to consult my girlfriends before a decision
Love UFC
my head is in the gutter more often than hubby's
Want sex if I have a headache lol!

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by moonlitwishes

Me too!! This sounds bad but my dad told me one time that I thought like a man, I have a need to make sense

I also do not do the "nothing" thing if something is irritating me he knows.
I see no reason to consult my girlfriends before a decision
Love UFC
my head is in the gutter more often than hubby's
Want sex if I have a headache lol!

I know a lot of women who are all about common sense/making sense. Sounds like your dad doesn't have the highest opinion of women. Yes, you're right, it sounds a bit bad but I'd have shrugged it off too.

Headache....there's more to that than some might think. Try it once while you (no one in particular) have a headache. It may not make it go away but it will make you forget about it for a while. That's the truth.

[moonlitwishes]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

I know a lot of women who are all about common sense/making sense. Sounds like your dad doesn't have the highest opinion of women. Yes, you're right, it sounds a bit bad but I'd have shrugged it off too.

Headache....there's more to that than some might think. Try it once while you (no one in particular) have a headache. It may not make it go away but it will make you forget about it for a while. That's the truth.

The headache thing....YES!! As far as my dad goes yeah he is kind of a douc*e Quick example we went to a bar to play pool and have a few drinks he comes up to me and says "daughter I need you to keep an eye on the big guy at the bar while my back is turned making this shot, I f***ed his wife and he isn't happy"

[TheBeagleLady]

My idea of a good night is hanging out on the couch, eating pizza and watching sports.

[20yrsinBranson]

Yes.

Every woman wants to be a mother.

NOT!!!!!

20yrsinBranson

[Sunflower_lol]

Yes.. the list goes infinite..
1) I never dreamed about being rescued. I like doing it on my own, not rely on a shiny knight. It's not like I'm a handicapped person.
2) I don't like cooking as well and will not be an ''everyday housewife'' being in the kitchen every day.
3) No interest in kids nor any sort of maternal instinct
4) Will refuse to help out whiny women complaining on how all men are bad, abusers, cheaters, etc... I dislike people with negative concepts towards the opposite gender. So just because it's a woman crying out doesn't mean she'll get my sympathy... no thanks.
5) Doesn't follow the ''I like abusers, terrible men'' rule....... sorry but treat me horrible and I'll be a total nasty, ***** to you in return (it makes sense, you can be all bad but be prepare when I'm no longer the sweet girl).
6) I'm not one of those drama queen who freaks out if a man looks at porn... look whatever you want to
7) Have a sex drive... I'm not one of those boring starfish.
8) Never cried over sappy films
9) Like watching wrestling matches
10) I hate jewels or rings... don't even want an engagement ring... ugh
11) Hate dresses as well too.

[Trimac20]

I can't really list alot of things, but I've never identified strong as male - or female, for that matter. I don't have a gender identity disorder - like I definitely FEEL male, but not in the chest beating 'I'm a man!' kind of way (I'm not really macho anyway). Like I'm generally not competitive/aggressive, especially when it comes to women, enjoy just talking to a girl without having an ulterior motive to get her into bed, like alot of female musicians (although I don't know how that makes you less masculine ) - I generally dislike heavy metal and musos who try to act tough too. I like sappy dramas too.

On the other hand I enjoy sports, cars, gadgets.etc, am on the messy side, am not really a metrosexual (dress pretty casually), generally dislike shopping unless I have alot of dough, and can't stand 'catty' or 'bitchy' behaviour.

I'd prefer a woman who didn't feel she had to conform to society's expectations; I wouldn't turn down someone who was naturally feminine, but not someone who restricted her self. Kind of like your mother saying 'girl's don't play with toy trains' or something like that. But if she was really into so called 'male' interests then that would be perfectly fine.