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KWPN · 01-29-2009, 10:23 PM

How forgiving are you of others' flaws & imperfections? Be it physical, emotional, mentally, etc.

mrstewart · 01-29-2009, 10:27 PM

How can someone forgive another for something that is out of ones control?

Fickle · 01-29-2009, 10:29 PM

Depends on what the flaw is and how drastic it is.....

Missing a front tooth? NEXT

OCD (Mild form)? I could take it - depends on what it is tho.

Bad Breath? NEXT

etc

It all depends on what it is...

****This is for dating****

Other than that.. I am game as long as it isnt a saftey issue.

Huckleberry3911948 · 01-29-2009, 10:29 PM

not at all.
but im getting better.

mrstewart · 01-29-2009, 10:32 PM

I can only be upset with someone if they choose to be a certain way...people choose to lie, cheat, steal, be abusive...physical and mental ailments are out of ones hands...

sierraAZ · 01-29-2009, 10:33 PM

I'm not the most forgiving person in the world I have to admit.

Not of myself, either.

However, what I can forgive or not may be very different than the consensus of the majority.

ChessieMom · 01-29-2009, 10:33 PM

That's impossible to answer without knowing a specific situation and what it is I'm looking to forgive. I just can't say.

alicejb · 01-29-2009, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by KWPN

How forgiving are you of others' flaws & imperfections? Be it physical, emotional, mentally, etc.

Very tolerant unless there are some moral boundaries of mine that they cross the line on. Once they go over that line, it's hard for them to get back on my good graces.

Pretty much most of the outward aspects I do not care about--I look more for the kind of person they are, the values they possess and how they treat themselves and others around them.

CometVoyager · 01-29-2009, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by KWPN

How forgiving are you of others' flaws & imperfections? Be it physical, emotional, mentally, etc.

Not that I am forgiving but more so, with the attitude, no one is perfect! Especially me!

Anyway, I find those who have to emphasize the flaws of another person usually have an inferiority problem. The best attitude to take when you meet a new person is to look them in the eye and say to yourself I am going to do everything in my heart and mind to just love this person.

KWPN · 01-29-2009, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ChessieMom

That's impossible to answer without knowing a specific situation and what it is I'm looking to forgive. I just can't say.

I guess I should elaborate. This thread stemmed from a lecture in one of my university classes.

We're still discussing, put Professor sent us home and told us to 'chew' on it for the weekend. Thought it'd make for interesting topic on CDF.

Basically, the topic was/is, How forgiving are you of others' flaws & imperfections.

I.E. You're dating someone who's not physically perfect, but their personality makes up for it. Do you over-look the imperfections and find comfort in the fact that their imperfections/flaws are a part of them. Or, do you end it because you cannot 'deal' (or whatever) with them?

One classmate said that when her husband and she married, she was physically fit, etc. she still looks amazing, but she admitted stuff now sags, she's got some physical flaws from having multiple children, etc. BUT her husband adores her imperfections because her body made and carried their children, and the imperfections are a reminder of the amazing things that occurred.

Hopefully that puts this thread in a better step/direction.