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This is one of the things that can bother me sometimes. I understand humility, but sometimes it annoys me if I pay someone a compliment and they play it off, like 'This old thing', or kind of downplay what I said. If that's the case, then I would not have said anything. What's so hard about saying 'Thank You, I appreciate that" and keep going?
Also, if I offer someone something, they will get 2 attempts (the initial and a 'you sure?') from me before I take it back. I don't force things on people. Like if someone was to do me a favor, let's say pick up something from the store, and I offer them money for what they did, or their trouble, I'll give them 2x to take it, and leave it at that. I won't force it on them or leave it somewhere secretly so that they stumble on it. If they said no, they don't want it.
Conversely, If you offer me something, you must want me to have it or you wouldn't have. So if I say yes, you can't get mad, or think that by offering you were being considerate. Some people do this and expect people to say no. They're crazy LOL.
You hit the nail on the head! This is the worst thing about my MIL. She cannot take a compliment at all. If you compliment her, she thinks this is an invitation for her to trash whatever you were talking about. The only exception to this is if it was something she received as a gift from something else. Then, she beams and thanks me and tells me the story of the gift.
I acknowledge it with a "thank you" and a smile. Sometimes I’d return the compliment if I honestly have something good to say. People who start saying how something's old, or they got it on sale, or they got it from a thrift store, or you name it drive me nuts, too. I did not ask and I do not care!
I acknowledge it with a "thank you" and a smile. Sometimes I’d return the compliment if I honestly have something good to say. People who start saying how something's old, or they got it on sale, or they got it from a thrift store, or you name it drive me nuts, too. I did not ask and I do not care!
Quite frankly, these "people" are always women. Men either accept compliments graciously as they should or the compliments make them uncomfortable if they're shy and/or not used to them.
Quite frankly, these "people" are always women. Men either accept compliments graciously as they should or the compliments make them uncomfortable if they're shy and/or not used to them.
Haha, yeah one time at work this lady told me I have a nice butt. I'm like "Thanks, I guess?"
I can take compliments- Not being too stuck on self, but I've accomplished some things. I agree, I do have a hard time thanking someone for some random compliment from left field LOL
People who don't take compliments well usually stop getting them.
If I give a person a compliment, it comes from the heart. So when the person I'm complimenting just brushes off what I've said as though it's nothing, it's insulting.
It's much better to honor the opinion of the person giving you the compliment.
There is a very easy way to accept compliments graciously without coming across as though you're conceited --- you just say "Thank you, that's very kind of you." or "Thank you, I'm glad you feel that way." And say it with a smile -- and mean it because we know whether you do or not
lol I agree with all of Sierra's posts, and I do the same thing. I say thank you and smile... sometimes if its from a guy I find attractive, I may blush a little too. Involuntary reaction .
Haha, yeah one time at work this lady told me I have a nice butt. I'm like "Thanks, I guess?"
Ha-ha, that's a little "out there" at work...
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Men either accept compliments graciously as they should or the compliments make them uncomfortable if they're shy and/or not used to them.
