Is kinkiness a deal breaker for you? (dating, wife, movies)

[sierraAZ]

Or does it depend on the kind? Provided you're not kinky yourself, of course... Or even if you are, your preferences just don't coincide, let's say.

I happened to meet somebody I had a reasonable interest in - good-looking, smart, funny, stable job and all that. However, it turned out he's seriously into S & M. I mean, not the mild stuff... the whole nine yards... I've never come across this for real. Would anybody consider accommodating them? I wouldn't.

OK, I'm trying to keep it PG-13... Please keep the responses the same way, so the thread doesn't get shut down.

[DFWgal]

what about the voice?



Imagine being whipped by this voice! You can give it a try. Maybe it's funny!

(all right, PG-13. Got it)

[60-minutes-II]

It should be ok. Are you afraid of experimenting?

[IonRedline08]

Sierra, I told you that I didn't "have" to roll you up in Saran Wrap and hang you upside down from the rafters.

I'm hurt you would put our business out on front street like that

[NoLoveLost]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Or does it depend on the kind? Provided you're not kinky yourself, of course... Or even if you are, your preferences just don't coincide, let's say.

I happened to meet somebody I had a reasonable interest in - good-looking, smart, funny, stable job and all that. However, it turned out he's seriously into S & M. I mean, not the mild stuff... the whole nine yards... I've never come across this for real. Would anybody consider accommodating them? I wouldn't.

OK, I'm trying to keep it PG-13... Please keep the responses the same way, so the thread doesn't get shut down.

well, I think it really depends on the individual. There will always be those who are into the bondage, or those who only like missionary, and then the masses in between.

I really believe it is about finding the person who best fits you in every aspect of your relationship with them. I definitely do not mean that you both should be the same, but that you can compliment each other.

I'm sure there are more people who are willing to try some things, but not everything. If S&M is his thing and not yours, you're definitely not compatible.....sex is one of the basic aspects of a relationship that you really need to be compatible......

[Hillman]

Was with a cripple Girl one time.All of a sudden she was causing major PAIN!!! I didn't know if I should just go with it or punch her.

Well I went with it,it was interesting.

But I was with a Black Girl that was into the White Master thing,wanted me to tie her up and beat her and call her stuff.I just couldn't bring myself to do it.

hillman

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by 60-minutes-II

It should be ok. Are you afraid of experimenting?

Not with hot wax, no. I've "experimented" with it on my own (like when I happen to get it on my skin when not being careful with a candle) and I don't find it fun at all. And most certainly not with stuff bordering on snuff movies.

Originally Posted by IonRedline08

Sierra, I told you that I didn't "have" to roll you up in Saran Wrap and hang you upside down from the rafters.

I'm hurt you would put our business out on front street like that

[anifani821]

Okay - this caught my eye, LOL. I am not on the dating circuit - very happily married. But when I was dating, had I suspected my DH was into kinky stuff, that would have been the end of that.

However, one person's "kinky" may be another person's "normal."

I had a friend once who told me she dropped her fiance b/c he had suddenly gotten into requesting "kinky" stuff. When she told me what it was that he wanted her to do, I burst out laughing b/c to my knowledge, what he was requesting would be considered a "normal request" by most folks. Now - whether she wanted to do that or not - totally her prerogative - but to label it as "kinky" didn't seem a fair description to me.

Then I had another friend who didn't find out until after she married this seemingly very straight guy that he was into some things wh/ I think most of us would consider "kinky" and definitely not in the mainstream of sexual behavior. To be discreet, let me just say it involved excrement. Too bad her hubby had not revealed his "preferences" b/f they got married - that was very unwise and unfair to his new wife, as well. They ended up filing divorce papers less than six months after they had gotten married.

My point is . . . what may seem normal to one person may seem kinky to another . . .so best to get that all sorted out early on. So yes, I would dump someone in a heartbeat that I felt was kinky, cause there is no way to make that work for the longterm.

[ExPit]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Or does it depend on the kind? Provided you're not kinky yourself, of course... Or even if you are, your preferences just don't coincide, let's say.

I happened to meet somebody I had a reasonable interest in - good-looking, smart, funny, stable job and all that. However, it turned out he's seriously into S & M. I mean, not the mild stuff... the whole nine yards... I've never come across this for real. Would anybody consider accommodating them? I wouldn't.

OK, I'm trying to keep it PG-13... Please keep the responses the same way, so the thread doesn't get shut down.

I may have missed it, but how did you know he was into it? He told you? He didn't even give you a chance to warm up to him first. If not, he never learned the first rule of seduction: Always make it easy for them to say yes, one concession at a time.

[60-minutes-II]

Kinky doesn't always involve candles or whips or poor/pee. It can be like role-playing different people or getting a third person involved.
The kinkiest thing I have done....well lets say it involved peanut butter and a girls behind and bread. I wasn't wierded out or anything. But after that we never did it again and neither did we break up or anything. because of the kinky experience.