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Old 02-11-2009, 02:15 PM
 
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I agree with this
I don't

 
Old 02-11-2009, 02:27 PM
 
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Do you think allot of these women really want bad boys or is it just that allot of jerks are good looking guys so they put up with more bs from them then if it was a not so good looking guy??
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:00 PM
 
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Well, maybe you're not marketing yourself properly.

It's not about what you have ... it's all about what people THINK you have
What women eventually figure out is that the marketing by many men is false advertising.
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:04 PM
 
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I think it's the 'bad boys' who lack confidence, thus, the bad boy act. The nice guys have nothing to prove--at least the ones I've dated. I think the term 'nice guy' is very misleading. The nice guys I've been attracted to and/or dated don't take any crap off people but they don't go around flexing their muscles like the bad boys--so to speak--so they just don't attract as much trouble. The nice guys know what they want, don't settle for less just b'c what they want isn't immediately in sight and don't compromise their high standard just to get a date. Bad boys on the other hand will date anything, anytime, anywhere. They're no catch at all. Been there, done that.
I agree. A person with true confidence doesn't need to pretend to be something he's not. This applies to women as well. I've met a number of women who weren't the most beautiful woman in the room and yet they radiated confidence because you could tell they weren't trying to impress the guys.

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pretending to be something I'm not was probably the most pathetic thing I've done.
I agree. It is pretty pathetic. That's one the great things about getting older. You learn not to care so much what others think or what they'll be impressed by.
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:08 PM
 
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a few weeks ago (a woman) said that nice guys and bad guys have something in common: they are angry and have issues with women, except the nice guy represses it and the bad guy does not. I agree with this
So all men are angry?
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:15 PM
 
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Originally Posted by KWPN
Seriously... I keep hearing this crap of "Nice guys finish last", where are they?
I keep running into the *******s in it for themselves. Not playing myself up, but I'm a catch!



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2 possible scenarios:
1. You great catches ignored them until they became too frustrated to stay nice.

2. They kept being nice anyway and none of you great catches even looked at them so they couldn't reproduce and now they're extinct.
Breeding has had an effect. We are now two or mor generations into the new paradigm. "Nice" was the most successful schtick until a little after 1960. Since then, it fell our of favor for many years. Whether this trait is genetic or behavioral, its not being passed on in the same numbers as in the past.
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:20 PM
 
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There's nothing wrong with being the quiet reserved type. If that's who you are, own it. Don't try to be something you're not.
Then you better be at least 7 out of 10 on the looks scale to have any sussess with women.

Anything less, and you must be outgoing. For many guys, this is a reall killer of their confidence.
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:27 PM
 
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Do you think allot of these women really want bad boys or is it just that allot of jerks are good looking guys so they put up with more bs from them then if it was a not so good looking guy??

What's your point?


If these chicks want the "bad boys" who are a-holes and jerks because they're "good-looking," why would you even worry about attracting those type of women? Are they really worth the effort to date? It's that they have issues with themselves. You shouldn't waste your time.
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:35 PM
 
Location: CA
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If these chicks want the "bad boys" who are a-holes and jerks because they're "good-looking," why would you even worry about attracting those type of women? Are they really worth the effort to date? It's that they have issues with themselves. You shouldn't waste your time.
Exactly. Maybe they are going after the wrong women.
 
Old 02-11-2009, 03:37 PM
 
Location: Fiji
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How does this "nice" phenomenon play out with "nice girls?" Or is that a topic for another thread?
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