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Unread 02-10-2009, 01:19 PM
 
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Originally Posted by DimSumRaja View Post
consider yourself fortunate to have found out "very early" in the relationship. So that you can cut your losses. Or if you choose to stick with him, you are signing up for more of the same. First, the texting, then the lying. It sounds like he is not trustworthy. Don't expect him to change.
I totally agree with you
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Unread 02-10-2009, 01:24 PM
 
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i found my man sending inappropriate texts to a woman. he denies it...what do i do...very early in our relationship...this is not acceptable
Sorry that this happens to you, but allow me to shed some light:

Have you actually have the "talk" -- you know, the "where is this going?" type of talk? Because, you may perceive him as your boyfriend, but he may not. Perhaps you two are not on the same page about who you are to each other?

Now, if you already went past the talk, and he's doing this, then I would agree with other posters.
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Unread 02-10-2009, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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And you want him for your very own why??????
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Unread 02-10-2009, 01:43 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Can you be more specific about what he was texting? I just ask because I don't know what you mean by inappropriate.
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Unread 02-10-2009, 02:19 PM
 
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How does one "attempt" to deny inappropriate texts?

it's what someone does when they are caught doing _______ (whatever), they deny it. Most people don't admit it when they are caught lying, cheating, stealing, whatever. They just go on to lie about it.
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Unread 02-10-2009, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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it's what someone does when they are caught doing _______ (whatever), they deny it. Most people don't admit it when they are caught lying, cheating, stealing, whatever. They just go on to lie about it.
Exactly. Saw something about this recently on tv - a study showed how the majority of people when confronted with a wrong doing will deny, deny, deny without giving it a second thought. It's like some kind of survival mechanism that you have to learn to overcome by practicing telling the truth all the time. Many people don't like to practice
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Unread 02-10-2009, 02:26 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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it's what someone does when they are caught doing _______ (whatever), they deny it. Most people don't admit it when they are caught lying, cheating, stealing, whatever. They just go on to lie about it.
That's why I aksed for more information. There's a recent post here from a woman who is friendly with a guy, and his wife is jealous and rude about it. If that wife posted here, she might say something like, "I've caught my husband having inappropriate conversation with another woman, and he just denies it." And everyone would jump all over the guy like they have here and say OMG what a lying cheating bastard, you should dump him immediately.

We only have one side of the story and a very scant one at that. I think it's a good idea to have a little more information before we all go off on the guy who may simply be talking to a friend of his.
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Unread 02-10-2009, 03:12 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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What did the text message day?

BTW, there is no reason for a guy to text another girl besides his wife or girlfriend, unless he wants to bang her.
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Unread 02-10-2009, 03:13 PM
 
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i found my man sending inappropriate texts to a woman. he denies it...what do i do...very early in our relationship...this is not acceptable
And how did you happen to come across these "inappropriate" text messages? Snooping, maybe?
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Unread 02-10-2009, 03:20 PM
 
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i also wonder, how did she meet him in the first place? If it was through online dating, is his profile still up and active? How she met him, is probably how he has met other women, and possibly continues to meet other women.
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