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Old 02-12-2009, 03:12 PM
 
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I have a few and it works out just fine, thankyouverymuch.
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Old 02-13-2009, 10:52 AM
 
Location: MI
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My FWB scenerio happened in my early 20s. We were great friends who occasionally enjoyed the casual hook-up when the mood hit - no strings, both of us still playing the dating pool (but NO hook-ups when dating another person, an unspoken rule). Crazily enough, we ended up falling in love after a couple years - been happily committed since, going on four years - go figure?!

Only bummer is, we don't have a traditional "first date anniversary" to celebrate, lol
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Old 02-13-2009, 11:41 AM
 
Location: USA
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I think the whole idea that FWB is not possible is based on the idea that women are so addicted to romance that it's IMPOSSIBLE for them to have sex with a guy and not get romantically attached. This conveniently fits the view most men have of women. This is also encouraged by the pop culture. How many books and movies have been made about women who just couldn't help falling in love with a guy they were just having a casual affair with?
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Old 02-13-2009, 01:47 PM
 
Location: MI
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I think the whole idea that FWB is not possible is based on the idea that women are so addicted to romance that it's IMPOSSIBLE for them to have sex with a guy and not get romantically attached. This conveniently fits the view most men have of women. This is also encouraged by the pop culture. How many books and movies have been made about women who just couldn't help falling in love with a guy they were just having a casual affair with?
In our case, it was HIM who initiated the relationship - sorry to debunk your theory!
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Old 02-13-2009, 02:01 PM
 
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In our case, it was HIM who initiated the relationship - sorry to debunk your theory!
It's not my theory. I think this is just the way a lot of people think.
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Old 02-13-2009, 02:03 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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I have two. I keep waiting for it to explode, it hasn't for almost two months now.
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Old 02-13-2009, 02:07 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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I think the whole idea that FWB is not possible is based on the idea that women are so addicted to romance that it's IMPOSSIBLE for them to have sex with a guy and not get romantically attached. This conveniently fits the view most men have of women. This is also encouraged by the pop culture. How many books and movies have been made about women who just couldn't help falling in love with a guy they were just having a casual affair with?
This has been the failing in previous attempts but these girls are not addicted to romance, nor is there even a chance.
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Old 02-13-2009, 02:13 PM
 
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I did have one that told me he loved me. I scowled at him and said, "Why would you want to ruin this by dragging the L-word into it?" He said he thought that all women were waiting to hear that sooner or later and he didn't want to lose me.

Why would someone assume that I am going to get emotionally attached to them? Just because we bumped uglies? Isn't that an ego trip? No, you're not all that!
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Old 02-13-2009, 02:21 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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Love and emotionally attached could mean different things...a girl I was in a FWB with got very upset when I moved on because she "caught feelings" for me....Achooooo....gezundhite
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Old 02-13-2009, 11:37 PM
 
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I think long term these things don't work because someones feelings get involved or other issues. Most of the time.

There have been some people I know of that were in a certain place in life that all they wanted was a cuddle and a good bump every once in a while and they found another person with the same understanding and so it goes. Personally that is all I am interested in right now and all I am willing to accept for now.
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